(Closed) to have MOH or just girls

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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7758 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s fine to not have a Maid/Matron of Honor. In that case it is usual to call them all bridesmaids.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@techheather:  It is up to you ultimately, but I don’t think that I could do that in regards to your SIL. I am not going to have a Maid/Matron of Honor, just my four sisters as bridesmaids.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

It’s totally fine to not have a Maid/Matron of Honor. If your aunt is going to be in it, she can be your Maid/Matron of Honor…that way you don’t hurt your friend’s feelings and cause problems among sisters.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m not having one. I barely had bridesmaids because I don’t like the idea of picking favorites, but I am going to have bms after all. But no moh.

Post # 7
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7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

You don’t have to have a Maid/Matron of Honor. And I wouldn’t worry about asking your SIL. It was nice of her to ask you since she was marrying your brother, but there’s no direct familial connection in your wedding, right? 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have 3 BM’s and did not have a Maid/Matron of Honor. I couldn’t pick as they are all special to me in different ways.

The only problem I’m finding with this is for things like toasts – who does one?

Post # 10
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@techheather:  Yes! I love that show. Well at least the earlier seasons, now it’s a bit forced. 

Post # 11
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Newbee

It’s totally fine to not have a Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 12
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Worker bee

As a person who was recently in a wedding with no moh. All I can say is PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE give tasks to certain people! And let people involved in the wedding (ie event coordinators) know there is no moh. The bridal shower and the batchorlette party both nearly didn’t get planned for this wedding. There were more than 4 of us and no one wanted to step on another’s toes by stepping forward and planning certain things. I suggest divide the girls in half on planning those things or start telling them now to get talking. You might be in better standing with 3 of them being sisters but it was major awkwardness when only a few know each other out of the group!  

 

Id figure out now how you want them to stand. Because first thing we got asked by the planner the day if the rehearsal was “where’s your moh they’re suppose to be standing next to you”. Personally for me it was awkward and uncomfortable standing there all of us staring at the bride as she was put center stage being told to pick one of us.  The girl who ended up getting used kept being called the moh by the planner (when she wasn’t… Cause none of us were…)

 

unfortantely the way the whole situation was handled for the wedding I was in. i don’t beleive any of us all felt “equally” special. I think we just felt like the bride couldnt commit and that was her “out”   I would’ve felt more equally valued with all the girls if we had been broken into groups to do different tasks (the shower the batch. Party etc) because those are primarily moh tasks to complete. By each of us having a small bit to do I think we would’ve felt more special to the bride.  But that’s just my thoughts and feel on the situation 🙂

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

@techheather:  Then I vote to just have BMs. 

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