Post # 16
unicornphish: Well I’m a Greece Greek so I guess your customs are a bit americanized. Which is great, actually, because the financial contribution is a a burden with the crisis and all and relationships can get tense. Now about you not being able to be koumpara again, if you didn’t convert to judaism and are still Greek Orthodox then it shouldn’t matter that you married in a secular ceremony. In Greece it wouldn’t be an issue, the priest only asks if you are baptised and that’s it. Maybe your officiant was a bit strict?
Post # 17
That’s a tough one. When I got married, I kept the tradition of the padrinos, but I did not have them contribute financially to the wedding. I only did this because our wedding party was small and I wanted to include many of my friends/family. But one of my cousins that served as a padrino did purchase my laso (she offered).
Post # 18
I’m from the caribbean we also have Gopparents for wedding. My mother was shock when I say I will not have one but I will have a Maid/Matron of Honor and a best man and told her that’s what they call godparents in US.I aske my aunt to be my Maid/Matron of Honor and Fiance ask one of his friend to be his best man.I know they’re don’t have any money to spend but I ask them anyway
Post # 19
melissamaria: Interesting, thank you for your insight! I guess the priest was being strict, it was all a little weird especially since my sister doesn’t even really identify as Greek Orthodox but wanted to get married in the church to make our mom happy. 😛
Post # 20
bellanotte11: Hi! My Darling Husband and I had padrinos. We were grateful that a handful of them offered and of course we said yes. We did ask for a few padrinos and in the end if they didn’t give us anything we didn’t ask them for it. We weren’t planning on having any either but that tradition followed us and we ended up having some.
To put it easy, just tell them hey we are looking for padrinos, if you can great and if you can’t that is perfectly fine. LOL well not like that but you get what I am saying! Good luck!
Post # 21
bellanotte11: YESSS! My Future Mother-In-Law brought this up. She said think of it like sponsers, relatives sponser different parts of the wedding. And I was like omg how can I ask people I have never met to pay for stuff! (They live in Texas we live in Kansas) But both his parents are like “OF COURSE we are doing this! They would be offended if we didn’t ask!” and said that their wedding cost them basically nothing. I will say my family would really love the help. Just glad to hear of another bee considering it.
Post # 22
We used mipadrino.com to organize our padrinos online and they allowed us to accept funds online. Super easy!!
Post # 23
I’m having godparents. (If they are godparents? we named them Padrinos de Boda in the program) they’re not contributing anything (that I know of, we’re not expecting it). So for us it’s just an honorary title and we gave it to a couple in the family that I felt has a great example of a successful marriage, and they happen to be my aunt and uncle. So for us they will sign as witnesses on our marriage certificate and walk down the aisle. It’s just a way to add a small part of my family’s heritage while not doing something we’re uncomfortable with.
edit: whoops old post -_- vendor up there?
Post # 24
mcmeow : That’s exatcly what my fiance and I are doing as well. We chose my cousin and his wife as they’ve been married for 12 years and are truly an amazing example of a happy and healthy marriage. That being said, they offered to cover the church costs for our ceremony which we are very grateul for.
Aside from that, we never personally ask anyone to help with our wedding as I wasn’t super comfortable with that. But we did have many of my family members (I’m hispanic, fiance is white) offer/make contributions to our wedding out of their own generosity.