Post # 1
I’m not following Mr. Bee’s Plan anymore lol I can’t do it! Last night I had a mini meltdown on poor SO. I love him, I really do, but I kinda hoped he’d have some kind of plan for Valentine’s Day lol We ended up with no plans and the usual spots were packed with a long line. We ended up at Applebees and then went for FroYo lol I was quite frustrated that he didn’t plan ahead (altho he never does, why did I hope this year would be different?) plus I had had a headache the entire day and didn’t take anything for it until after we had tried the first restaurant. So when I was driving him back to his car I was trying to be in a better mood than I was in, and then he said something about our 50th Wedding Anniversary and I snapped. How can he be thinking about our 50th Wedding Anniversary when there hasn’t even been a wedding! (in hindsight I know it was sweet that he was thinking of our future, but at the time I was upset) I ended up crying (while driving… I don’t recommend it!) and he was kinda confused, so I ended up telling him some of what was on my mind. I mentioned that we weren’t even engaged yet and who knows if we’ll live to see our 50th Wedding Anniversary (in SO’s family the men rarely live past 65) and he said something about how I need to start on my ring collection (engagement and wedding lol his version of humor) and I flat out asked him if he had the ring that he has told me about and shown me an image of (well not the same ring but similar) and he wouldn’t tell me. He said he couldn’t tell me because if he did have it I would know his timeline… to which I said if you do have it that doesn’t tell me when, some guys sit on the ring for a day, others a year, I won’t know until you propose! Eventually he did admit that HE HAS THE RING! lol So to hell with the plan, I’m gonna talk about it when I need to, but I am currently very happy knowing this little piece of information… and I wonder if Ice Skating has to do with his proposal idea, will have to plan a day of skating to find out!
Post # 3
Thats awesome…BUT! I still strongly suggest not bringing it up anymore! If he has the ring, he’s planning something, and constantly bringing it up is more likely to end up ruining a surprise or making him decide to wait until he thinks you’re not expecting it.
Post # 4
@annasaf83: That was really hard to read as one big block, but I persevered.
If he is talking about the future even loosely, that is good.
If he has the ring, BRILLIANT!
My guy has had the ring since December, so I know the feeling and how it is really hard. And I am following Mr Bee’s Plan, but not strictly. I’m not bugging him or asking him for details, but if someone is getting engaged or there’s some funny story on the Bee I want to talk to him about, I do. In the mean time, I have my own goals that I am working to to keep me busy.
So basically, hang in there (easier said than done!) and you can always vent to us if neccessary 🙂
Post # 5
@mandypop: Yes I’m going to try not to pester him anymore, but if I feel I need to talk about it with him I will do so, and I wouldn’t mind getting some wedding ideas from him, he’s always said he wants to elope, but last night he actually mentioned something about a catering hall lol.
@Mrs.SleepyKitty: thanks, I do vent on here… alot lol thankfully it seems like I’m close to the light at the end of the tunnel 🙂 and so are you! Fingers crossed we see our sparklies soon! 🙂
Post # 6
Good news that you know he has the ring!! I agree with some of the other posts suggesting that you drop the talk about it. I know how hard it is. I have bit my tongue so many times over the past couple months. It wasn’t until I made my SO agree that neither one of us would bring up wedding talk anymore that things really turned a corner. Turns out he had a plan and I really did not expect it! You have to trust him. My SO would not give me any info, although over the past year I have asked time and time again to get any kind of idea. Finally in November, he gave me a timeline (although he was very hesitant) Buying the ring is a huge step and I would be elated to know he is taking action and will be asking eventually.
Post # 7
Yay! He has the ring! 🙂
I agree with the other bee’s. Im really happy for you and I bet that takes a load off of your mind. But be cautious (cause I know I would feel this way…) dont think everytime you guys go out or do somthing nice that “maybe tonight will be the night!” then if it doesnt happen you would be really upset and get ur hopes up. I know it would be driving me crazy! Best of luck to your dear! cant wait to see the ring when it does happen! 🙂
Post # 8
@eeerika22: Oh I know! I’m not expecting it anytime soon, possibly in time for our 2 and a half year anniversary… which would be in April. But that seems to be the earliest I think… my friends are starting a pool lol I just want to start planning! lol thinking about my first official wedding purchase… wedding forever stamps! lol I’m such a dork and a planner lol
Post # 9
he has the ring!!!!!!!!
thats more info that i got girl (mainly bc im scared to know the answer lmao) just hold tight 🙂 its coming. he has a plan…eeeeeeek!! so awesome
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