Post # 1
Hello All ,
I am in a dilemna and need your opinons . I am having a formal traditional wedding and the ceremony is at a church and they have a coordinator that will be in charge of the ceremony events. And my reception is at a Hilton Hotel and i have spoken with the catering manager and she stated that she will be there at the wedding herself , and she has tons of staff to assist with getting the room ready . She truly is helpful and very nice but the control freak who hardly trust anyone to do something for me is not satisfied with letting all my hard work in her hands only . I am having about 100 guest max , and just having the regulars vendors ( limo , cake , linen , photographer , videographer and DJ ) The catering managers told me that her staff will handle all detail like placecards , candy bar, centerpieces (they are diy and not floral )and such as long as she has a clear idea how they should be set up .
I found a coordinator who will charge $450 for the day ( i still have to find this amount somewhere in my budget ) but am debating if it is worth it or not . Plus she has not done many wedding so i am bit scare as well . Another coordinator wanted to charge me a whopping 1000 for 8 hours , no tear down . I do love her work but the price tag is too high for me . I want my sanity on my wedding day but the hotel is convincing me it will be money out the door given their services but i am thinking , really??!!!
Please help me on this .
Post # 3
We’re having a hotel wedding as well and we hired a DOC. I have a long standing relationship with the venue coordinator and I know she’ll kick ass but we were able to score a DOC for free so we figured the extra help couldn’t hurt. In my own personal situation and only because of my relationship with the venue coordinator, I would not have hired a DOC if we didn’t get ours for free but I think it’s a good idea for everyone else to book the extra help.
The venue coordinator (or in your case, catering manager) are advocates for the venue, not you. While I’m sure they’ll do a great job regardless (they’re professionals afterall), it is always nice to have someone there fighting for you and your wants and needs.
If you can fit it into your budget, I’d definitely go for it. Or, you could always hop over to the classifieds and see if there are any DOC’s in your area offering special deals. We were able to score our DOC through a classifieds ad she placed on WB. I realize some people are skeptical when it comes to this but I assure you, there are legitimate offers out there. Our DOC has lots of experience in the wedding world and is now branching out and starting her own company. While she builds her portfolio she’s offering a handful of couples free services in exchange for some professional photos for her site and a few online reviews. Can’t beat that! I bet these sort of deals are offered all over. You just have do a little research.
Post # 4
I had a budget wedding and so I had no money for a coordinator, but the venue coordinators did a great job setting up the reception for me and preparing the garden with chairs, runner, candle stand etc, and my flowers, cake with the cutter and napkins tucked in place, champagne glasses and gift and card table without me even needing to be present, and for everything else I deployed my amazing and highly organized Maid/Matron of Honor and my pack of sisters to make sure the men knew where to go, when to be ready and where to be, and to run any little errands I needed during the getting ready time. It was fun, hectic, and actually not stressful at all, these venue coordinators know what they are doing and have a lot of experience (more than the brides) and your bridesmaids should be ready and willing to help with the little details. After the wedding the site staff and my bridal party and family had fun cleaning up and eating the leftover cookies and wine and chatting. If you are running off to your honeymoon dont be afraid to ask your family to help you out. I wouldnt spend the money.
Post # 5
We had the ceremony and reception on the same resort property, and the event coordinator oversaw both. She was absolutely fantastic, knew what she was doing, and had lots of great suggestions for us. I think if there are already coordinators, you really don’t need another one. The perk of a coordinator is so you and your family don’t have to set things up or direct people, but those tasks will be done by the existing coordinators. I think an extra DOC would be overkill.
Post # 6
If it will make you feel more at ease, I think $450 is a more than reasonable fee for a DOC (They don’t come for under $850 around here).
The DOC is on your side and on top of making sure things move in the right way, they are there to make sure your vendor contracts are excecuted properly. I always wonder what happens when the coordinator works for the venue and there’s a dispute.