(Closed) To hyphenate my last name and add the new one or not?

posted 4 years ago in Traditions
Post # 31
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I have decided to make my current last name my middle name and his last name my new last name. For example, Jane Mary Smith to Jane Smith Jones. 

I use all three of my names now in business and official documents, so it won’t be a big change. It’ll let me keep the name I’m known by and add his name. I’m not particularly attached to my middle name, so it seemed like a good compromise. 

Post # 32
341 posts
Helper bee

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Daisy_Mae:  I kept my own name last time I was married, this time ill hyphenate. It’s nothing to do with not being able to go the full way and not take his. This time I really want us both to have the same name, so we’ll both hyphenate. 

I’m also not willing to compromise on what I’m called because a double barrel name might cause a second ‘s confusion to someone doing data entry. Is that the kind of basis people make these big decisions on??  Lol!  

Post # 33
636 posts
Busy bee


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howdoiknow:  I couldn’t agree more. There are all kinds of reasons for making decisions about what your name will be, but the convenience of customer service reps is not high on my list.

At any rate, my husband and I both hyphenated, and we’ve never had a single problem. And my name isn’t simple to begin with! It was very important to my husband that we have the same name, and it was very important to me that whatever we did was equally balanced, and that doesn’t leave many options. We’ve both been thrilled with the results, and haven’t had a single regret.

Post # 34
2110 posts
Buzzing bee

SO and I will both be hyphenating so we will be Mr and Mrs (my last name)-(his last name).

Post # 35
2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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howdoiknow:  Um, just to point this out, it’s not exactly a shallow decision or just about data-entry and being kind of customer service reps. My Darling Husband, with his hyphenated name, almost didn’t get to apply to his college alma mater because, after submitting three–THREE applications–they still literally could not figure out which name it was filed under and were claiming that he hadn’t submitted prior to the deadline. We almost did not close escrow on our house because the bank kept getting his name wrong on documents. So yeah, difficulties with the hypen do fall under annoying inconveniences 75% of the time, but that other 25% really have incurred real problems and stress. 

I mean, I’m happy that you haven’t had any problems yourselves, and I support anyone’s decision to do whatever makes them happy. But you do sound awfully smug and I assure you, it hasn’t been, for us at least, as trivial a concern as you think. 

Post # 36
732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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midwestbride14:  Sorry, wasn’t clear.  I wouldn’t update my legal name either, would just go by Mrs. Hislastname socially.

Post # 37
26 posts
  • Wedding: April 2015

We both hyphenated and so far, so good. I’m glad we did it this way because neither of us gave up anything to get married, we gained, and our name change is a visible reminder of that. As far as the inconveniences, I’m of the mindset that unless people continue to need change to happen, and continue to push for change, then the status quo will be able to continue

Post # 38
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

With my first marriage I hyphenated but this time I am taking my soon to be husband’s name.  

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