- 7 years ago
- Wedding: February 2012
I wasnt really sure what section to put this in because I am not really asking for what the etiquette is, but more for just what do you think I should do/ask for advice about this.
I am having a smaller destination wedding (about 70 guests) in Disney next February. I am starting to put our guest list and budget together and I am trying not to be too unreasonable. I am debating about whether to invite children to the wedding or not. We dont have too many young children in our family since I am the first to get married in my family and my fiance’s sister was the first in his recently. So right now the only children invited are our flowergirl- who is our niece and god child and will be two years old and my three cousins who are ages 15, 15, and 13 (family and not really kids anymore and the older two are bridesmaids). We already have sent our Save the Dates that said our wedding reception would not be including children. We have two couples that are friends of ours who have children. We did invite these 2 couples with kids to bring the kids to Disney if they want to, informed them of the kids clubs and in room babysitting options for child care, and invited the kids to our Welcome Party the day before and Farewell Brunch the day after the wedding. But I am wondering now if I should change this and invite them to the wedding too because there would only be 6 of them?
One couple we invited who are friends of our family has 5 children ages 5, 7, 9, 11, and 14 and another friend of mine has a 2 year old. The two issues are cost and space. There are specially discounted kids meals but even with the children’s menus each of the children (except the 2 year old) would be $100 with the extras we have to pay fullprice for- soda packages, cocktail hour food, and cake so this would be an extra $500 which is a lot to invite our friend’s children from one family (Although I do this we would probably recoup some of this in a larger gift from them). The other thing is we are already at our capacity for our reception room so we would have to have a seperate children’s table outside on the attached patio for the older kids to sit at (of course not the 2 and 5 year old).
These 2 couples have not complained about the kids not being invited to the wedding at all. The couple with the 2 year is planning on leaving their daughter at home with her grandma for the trip and the big family is planning on having the 2 older children babysit the others in the room during the wedding. So I am not sure what I should do but it just seems like so much money to pay for kids who arent our family. Any advice for me? Thanks so much!