(Closed) To Invite of Not To Invite….? (long)

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
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  • Post # 3
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Oh gosh, don’t invite them. You’re not even friends with them. Just because they were nice to you at this one random event doesn’t mean they render an invitation. They sound awful–they were rude to you guys at their wedding–making a point of not coming and thanking you? I mean, seriously! Don’t invite them! I bet you won’t feel bad about it in a week…don’t let the guilt get to you.

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’m going with a big no!!! Basically I agree with ejs word for word!

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I agree with ejs — it’s more aggro than it’s worth, especially if most of the invitations have already gone out.  This is going to sound a little cold, but when you’re trying to keep guest list numbers under control, “they were nice to me when I ran into them at my bachelorette party” isn’t really a compelling reason to put someone on the guest list.  I would ask F to pass along the message that you and your Fiance are having trouble keeping the guest list numbers down, and that you agreed to only invite family and people you both know (or something like that). They may be mad that you didn’t invite them, but if you’re not friends anyway, it’s not a big loss.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I noticed that your wedding is on NYE. If this couple didn’t get a save-the-date, and invitations have already gone out to other guests, it’s going to be pretty apparent that they weren’t exactly on your A-list of guests. And if I were in their position, and I suddenly got an invitation this late in the game, after running into you at your bachelorette party, it would be fairly obvious what had happened. If you didn’t intend to invite them in the first place, don’t do it now.

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I wouldn’t invite them.  It seems like there’s too much water under the bridge.  And I wouldn’t invite them for all the reasons you stated.  You don’t owe them anything, especially considering the bride didn’t even want you guys at their wedding.

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I wouldn’t invite them either.  Just because you went to their wedding does NOT mean you have to invite them to yours. 

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    Based on what you’ve said, I wouldn’t invite them. Buying you a beer at some event pales in comparison to the way they’ve treated you in the past, and it doesn’t sound like you will miss them if they’re not at your wedding.

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I wouldn’t invite them. Sounds like its time to just wish them well and part ways. You should only have people at your wedding that you truely want, not because you feel its appropriate to return the invite.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Yeah I’m on the “no” train. It sounds like you have no desire to invite them but feel for some reason obligated, which is no reason to invite them to your wedding especially if you’re trying to keep your numbers down. I wouldn’t give it a second thought, honestly.

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    To me it seems like you shouldn’t invite them. They were pleasant to you because of the random fact you were there the same time they were for you B party. Your so off the hook for inviting them.

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    No way.  There’s absolutely no reason to invite them.

    Post # 14
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    another vote for “NO” here….

    Don’t do it.

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I don’t think you should invite them either. Celebrate with those closest and dearest to you. If you were to add a few to your guestlist, I’m sure you’d think of someone else you’d rather invite than them.

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Don’t invite, totally and completly not necessary!

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