Post # 1
I have two close friends who I am inviting to my wedding. My two close friends also have a third close friend who I am not that close with and only see through them. I am not inviting her to the wedding. We get along and she’s pleasant enough to be around but just not someone I would call to spend time with alone. I did consider inviting her but ultimately decided not to.
I sent out my save the dates this weekend. One of my friends received hers today and took a pic of it and sent it in a group text between me and my two close friends and the third friend who I am not close with, saying how excited she was. My friend assumed I invited the not close friend. Now I feel like I huge jerk!
Should I invite her? I didn’t go to her wedding and I honestly think attending my wedding would be a hassle as she has two small children and a husband who caters weddings, so he will obviously be busy or taking time away from making very good money to attend my wedding.
Weddings sure can bring out the uncomfy situations!
Post # 2
I wouldn’t invite her. Not only was she not on your original guestlist for a reason (you aren’t close with her at all), it will now be obvious to her that she was a last minute add on. You have no reason to feel like a jerk – you haven’t done anything wrong.
If it was me, I would probably get in touch with the friend who posted the photo and explain that the other girl is not invited so please don’t share wedding related things in the group chat because you don’t want her to feel uncomfortable. Don’t feel like you need to engage with your friend or explain if she asks why this girl is not invited, but you can always just tell her the truth if she continues to pester you.
Post # 3
SittingWaitingWishing : Ugh that’s a difficult situation bee. I would honestly invite her at this point just out of sheer awkwardness. But that’s just me, you obviously don’t have to. You said you didn’t attend her wedding, does that mean you were invited though?
Post # 4
JessieFay13 : I did let my friend know and she felt really bad! I felt the same about it now looking like an overthought if I were to invite her. Sticky situation all around
sapphire27 : No I was not invited to her wedding. I was invited and did attend her baby shower though, not that that is the same scale as a wedding. It’s such a hard call!
Post # 5
SittingWaitingWishing : I would just not invite her and not say anything about it. I’m sure she will politely ignore the text incident.
Post # 7
SittingWaitingWishing : Honestly, I would just leave it as is. The friend knows not to share anything else, and I’m sure that this girl will just ignore the message and move on – she obviously agrees that you aren’t close.