(Closed) to invite or not invite? Help! (very long)

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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1182 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@acciotoni:  

Well, if nothing else, it sounds like your sister is starting to see his true colors. That’s a bonus. Hope she dumps Jerky McJerkwad before the wedding and then you won’t have to deal with it. 🙂

Post # 33
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1018 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@acciotoni:  I don’t really have any advice, I just wanted to say that I’m so sorry about all of this.  What a terrible situation.  🙁

Post # 35
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1578 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Oh, Lordy…I also thought he was some young kid learning the ways of the world.  Now he’s just an asshole…no excuse for that behavior.

Post # 36
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648 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t really want to be defending this guy, because if everything went down exactly like you said, it seems like he was in the wrong here. But there are two sides to every story, and it sounds like a lot of emotions are involved here for whatever reason, and you may have had the misfortune to meet him on an otherwise terrible weekend. 

Give your sister a +1 at least, so as not to make any situation between the two of you happen. 

Post # 37
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7384 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh my god, he is a 42 year old psychologist? No. Nope. I was picturing him as some idiot frat boy. Pass.

Post # 38
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321 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

You need to have a “coming to Jesus” talk with your sister. I recently did this with my best friend (practically sister) and it was really tough but it HAD to be done. I would in no way invite him. Infact I would find it extremely disrespectful to your parents if you did. 

Post # 39
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2336 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

The big problem isn’t the wedding invitation (yes you should invite him).

The big problem is that there’s a chance your sister could marry this guy.  That’s what I’d worry about more.

(As a side note, while I agree with your assessment his behavior was completely inexcusable, your parents shouldn’t have promised to get him out when he insisted before they made the trip out.)

Post # 40
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2200 posts
Buzzing bee

I wouldn’t invite him – he may make a scene at your wedding and I wouldn’t want that. Sorry sis- if she is any sister, she will come without him and leave early or something.

Post # 41
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1114 posts
Bumble bee

I think they’ll probably break up if they’re not living in the same city and he’s being such a douche. Give her a plus 1 so you don’t put a wedge in-between you two. They might be broken up by the wedding by then. He’s obviously no good for her, and after the horomones wear off (should be any day now) she’ll hopefully get fed up and leave him, but having her family support her is going to be a huge part of that. 

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