- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2017
I’m a mess over this. It’s taken up my entire day. So many “if I invite so and so, I have to invite so and so (who I don’t really want there)”. I wish we were made of money and could invite the 200 + people on our dream list but we can’t. Including alcohol, food and gratuity we are paying $97.80 per person! We are paying for the wedding ourselves and cannot exceed 100 guest including us! That means if we gave everyone a plus one, that’s only 25 guests each! Crazy how that adds up.
How did you decide who makes the cut?? I started with “haven’t seen in a year” and “have never met FI” and I’m still grossly over on my GL. I need to cut like 20 + people. I have a feeling, even though our wedding is 3 hrs from home, everyone will show up. I’m so close to saying ef it and leaving off all the cousins except the three I like, and cutting anyone I’m not excited to have there. I wish I cared less, if only for this task.
For example there is a girl who is a great friend to me. TBH she’s a better friend than most my friends. She texts me all the time, cares about my well being (and my children’s) and always tries to hang out. She’s super crafty and wants to help with wedding DIY projects. The problem? She’s a Debbie downer by nature. If we are shooting it straight..she is a basically hot mess. She needs (and is receiving) psychiatric help. She cuts herself, pulls her own hair and eye brows out, suffers from an eating disorder. She sends me pics and texts about all of it. Being friends with her is exhausting because I want so badly to help her, but I can only do so much. I honestly don’t want her at my wedding and I feel terrible about it. When I see her I’m overcome with concern and helplessness. She looks sickly because of everything she has done to herself. Would you invite her?
Cutting this list down is THE HARDEST thing! My BFF (who’s married) says her biggest wedding regret was worrying so much about what other people thought, and people feelings, and not just inviting and doing what she wanted to. What say the Bee’s? Any advice?