(Closed) To invite or not invite…need advice

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
625 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m so sorry you are in this predicament. Weddings, unfortunately, can turn into a battle of who to invite, who is upset and whom, who can’t get along with this person, seating people away from each other, etc.

If it were me, I’d ask myself two questions: 1. Would your dad be the type to make it obvious that he is uncomfortable? Or is he the type to let it go and try to have a good time despite awkward circumstances? and 2. Will you regret not having them there later on?

If your dad can swallow the awkwardness for a day and you’d be really sad not to have them there, then I say invite them. Despite circumstances like these, it is still YOUR day and I think your dad should understand that.

My SIL invited her grandmother AND her grandfather’s widow (her grandfather divorced her grandmother and remarried before he died). Somehow she was able to seat them so that neither one ever knew the other was there and both had a good time.

Again, I think if the pros of having them there outweigh the cons, you should have them there if it means a lot to you.

Post # 5
1805 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I have had similar issues with who to invite and who not to invite to avoid making others uncomfortable. In the end I invited everyone and as a result my uncle refuses to come to the wedding, it seems like your dad is willing to deal with the awkwardness so I say invite!

Post # 6
847 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@maheu2012:  Invite thrm. You want them there and it’s your dad’s responsibility to deal wirh his feelings. 

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