Post # 1
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Newbee
So, my fiance and I were set up on a blind date by two mutual friends. We hit it off. Within a couple of weeks this same friend decided to end our friendship because she didn’t like that I was dating my now fiance. When we ot engaged I let her know (mostly because she is in the same congregation as my Fiance and I didn’t want her tohear from other people and cause drama). I haven’t seen her for over four months…the last time I saw her was for a nice “get-together” where she trash talked my Fiance and left me feeling totally worthless. The issue is that I am good friends with her roommate and her sister and am inviting both of them. I don’t want to offend her, but anytime I see her and just the thought of having her at my reception sends me into panic attack mode. Do I suck it up and invite her or no?
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
I would not invite her. Shes not a friend, by her own choice. Your wedding is about sharing it with people that support you and your future husband.
Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
@samanthajkellie: ditto! I can’t imagine inviting her to the wedding. She has no right to be offended over the lack of an invitation. And if she is, who cares?
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
She isn’t your friend and openly trash talks your Fiance… definitely no. If she’s offended, who cares? She has no right to be.
Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
I would absolutely not invite anyone who made me feel “worthless” no matter who they are friends with! Your wedding guests should be people who love and support you. It doesn’t matter if things will feel awkward around the time the invites go out – that’s much better than you feeling awkward for even a moment on your wedding day.
Post # 7
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Newbee
There should be no Question about it .. ABSOLUTELY NOT ..
Post # 7
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Newbee
There should be no Question about it .. ABSOLUTELY NOT ..
Post # 8
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Wannabee
I totally agree with everyone who has posted so far. You are not required to invite someone who purposely put you off. She made her own choice here. If she was interested in being part of your life, she wouldn’t be such a jerk to you and your Fiance. Her roommate and her sister will understand why she wasn’t invited and probably won’t be offended at all, so I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
I agree with everyone else. No way, don’t invite her.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
It’s your day. You shouldn’t have to stress about people being at your wedding that you don’t want there! And she obviously doesn’t care about your feelings, so why would you care if it offends her that she doesn’t get an invitation. She shouldn’t even be expecting to be invited.
Post # 11
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Busy bee
Why would you even consider inviting her? Sounds like she doesn’t care about you and your finace anyway, so why invite more drama?
Post # 12
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Newbee
Okay thanks…this makes me feel a lot better about not wanting to invite her and validates what I was thinking! Thanks so much!
Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
Don’t invite her! Thats her fault if she feels offended, not yours.
Post # 15
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Blushing bee
It seems pretty obvious to me that the answer is NO! Why invite someone you don’t like and doesn’t like you?
