(Closed) To invite or not to invite?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My step-mom had this same problem years ago. She could only invite what her venue allowed a little over 100, and met up with all her work collegues and customers at her work bar after her regular reception. I think people will tend to understand you have space constraints. By The Way she worked as a bartender at a beach bar and over the years, and even before that she had just become friends with too many people. If they felt they needed to invite everyone they wouldv’e had a guestlist of over 400 people. You might feel bad, but you have to draw the line somewhere. Just let them know it is a low key wedding with only family and close friends, they will hopefully understand.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Well… you don’t tell them unless they ask & when they do the answer is simply that there isn’t enough space: your venue is full. People shouldn’t EXPECT to be invited to your wedding & it would be super rude for them to be outwardly upset afterward!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

I think you should also examine how much you are talking about the wedding in front of univited guests. Really you shouldn’t be mentioning anything about it. Then if they still bring it up, just tell them that you are sorry they won’t be able to fit in your space.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I think being honest that you are having a smaller wedding and just can’t afford to include everyone you love!  I think every couple ends up needing to make a decision about who can be there and unless you have a wedding for 700 there’s probably going to be someone that you’ll have to not invite. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@andielovesj:  That is wonderful advice.  I just thought back to this week and I was discussing wedding plans with someone I don’t plan on inviting.  How rude of me!!

Thanks! Wink

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