(Closed) To invite or not to invite?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ve been struggling with the plus 1 too! If you want my honest opinion I would say yes to the friend who’s married, it’s polite to invite the spouse…for those not married, my personal decision for my wedding will be to give plus 1 to the people who have been in a relationship for over a year or who live together

Post # 5
1796 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You absolutely have to invite married and engaged couples together. People who are in long term relationships and/or live together really should be invited together too. If you can’t afford to invite the SO, then leave the whole couple off. There have been several posts about this and the general consensus is that it’s more offensive to be invited without your spouse/partner than to not be invited at all

Post # 6
4502 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I say invite the friend and her husband together, and the other friend alone (unless she lives with her SO). 

If you can’t afford to invite both husband and wife, then don’t invite them at all. That’s what I think, anyway. 

Post # 7
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Yes, you need to allow them to bring their significant other.

Post # 8
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would invite the spouse, I know I would want to bring mine, or at least have the option too.

Post # 9
5518 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

Why don’t you talk to your friends and get their opinion on the subject. Tell them that you are trying to cut costs with guests and that you want to know if they would be offended if you didnt invite their SOs. I usually just asked my friends what they thought when it came to offended them. 

Post # 10
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@msfahrenheit:  I agree with this. Invite them as a couple or don’t invite them at all.

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