(Closed) To invite or not to invite?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1736 posts
Bumble bee

Holy family drama Batman! I can’t even believe you had to deal with something so … horrible. I am at a loss for words here. She allowed someone to key “slut” into the side of your car? Who does that? Over FI choosing not to date her friend? I’m sputtering here …

I don’t know that there is a right answer to this. The right answer for Grandma is to invite her, the right answer for you is not to…but if Future Mother-In-Law is saying she has to be invited…I don’t know how you can really avoid that without risking her wrath…Have you talked to Fiance about it?

This is what is affectionately called “a rock and a hard place.”

Post # 5
726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Keep in mind that the wedding is your’s and your Fi’s day. I think if she makes you that upset, don’t invite her. 

Post # 6
1736 posts
Bumble bee

@Bryant2be:  Hm. No doubt that it will be a hard decision, but if you have Fiance and Future In-Laws support and you will find some peace of mind in knowing she won’t be there…then don’t invite her.

Post # 7
3303 posts
Sugar bee

Hell no, don’t invite her. She keyed “slut” into your car. I would NEVER!

Post # 8
150 posts
Blushing bee

personally i’m not a fan of people who call me “slut”, and try to make a habit of not interacting with them.


don’t invite her. she’s mean.

Post # 10
2111 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I vote to not invite her. Perhaps kindly explain to your fiance’s grandmother that while you care about her feelings, the two of you do not feel comfortable inviting the offending cousin due to personal reasons. The wedding is about you and your fiance and the people who you love and who love you back. The cousin does not fall into either of those categories. 


Post # 11
597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Bryant2be:  I really don’t think she would come, but on the offchance that she would (just to spite you) I would have a talk to the grandma and explain it that you would love to invite her but she just doesn’t even like you (give a few not so horrible ones, like the ignoring you, skip the keying part) and tell grandma you and he only want to be surrounded by people who love and support you and she’s unfortuantly not one of them. 


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