(Closed) to invite or not to invite….

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: what should i do?
    invite anna : (7 votes)
    16 %
    don't invite anna : (37 votes)
    84 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    8461 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I definitely wouldn’t invite someone that had pressured/threatened me into it.  Do you really care about being friendly with her?  Seems like it’s more hassle than it’s worth, plus your Fiance doesn’t want her there and it’s his wedding too.

    Post # 4
    Member
    817 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    It’s your day and you need to enjoy it with family and friends. Why would you let her pressure you? Maybe this will get her out of your life and you won’t have to be friendly with her anymore. She doesn’t sound too friendly anyway.

    Post # 5
    Member
    4439 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    I’d invite Anna out of the sheer awkwardness of the situation, especially if she and Betty are still roomies.  That way Betty has someone to sit with at the reception (assuming she’s not in the wedding and doesn’t know a lot of other people which could both be wrong) and I’d tell Fiance with all the people there he won’t even notice Anna.

    Post # 6
    Member
    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    You don’t want her there, so, don’t invite her. Sometimes I think we wedding planning bees put too much emphasis on the correct etiquette. You don’t want to really see her in the daily living world, and you don’t get on, and she sounds, well, not very nice. Not someone I’d want at my wedding.

    Post # 7
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    407 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    You say you don’t hate the girl and still occasionally hang out with her so I would invite her if it’s a big wedding and every and any are being invited. But if you don’t want to be friends with her anymore, then don’t invite her.

     

    Post # 8
    Member
    553 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Since your fiance is against it then you should respect his wishes and not invite her, only because it’s not that important to you that she’s there and it would only be to avoid conflict with her (if you really want her there then maybe he will come around). I’m actually in the SAME situation and I’m not looking forward to having to face the day when my own “anna” finds out she’s not on the guest list, but it just is what it is…I tell myself in 20 years it won’t matter, try telling yourself that, it really works. On the other hand, I have another friend who fiance finds annoying and does not care for but she’s a very good friend and he’ll have to just get over it since it is important to me that she’s there. So, I would not invite Anna based on that criteria.

    Post # 9
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    4952 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I wouldn’t invite her if you don’t want to have her there. Also, Betty can attend the wedding without Anna knowing about it.

    Post # 10
    Member
    331 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I also have an “Anna” and it’s driving me crazy but the important thing is that my Fiance does not like her and hs told me he does not wish her to be at our wedding. 

    At first I lost sleep over it and then I realised that if it wasn’t for the wedding, I probably would not see her again. 

    Problem solved really,  

    I try to think about when I look back on the day, will I have missed her there. I doubt 
    I will even see her again! 

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