Post # 1
I have a dilemma as far as whether or not to invite my boss and co-workers. Fiance is only inviting one co-worker and his wife but that works for him because he works in a larger office. For me, I work in an office with just 4 other people plus my boss. I love my boss and I’m pretty close to her but our ‘closeness’ has never extended to anything outside the work place. And out of the 4 co-workers, I have a personal (outside of work) relationship with one of them.
Here’s the dilemma. We are only having 50 people at our wedding so it’s definitely on the ‘small’ side. I’d like to invite my co-worker because she and I do hang out outside of work. But I’m not sure if I should invite my boss? If I was to invite her AND the co-worker, how bad would it be to exclude the other 3 people in the office? Do I invite the two of them and ask them to keep it quiet?? Or is that shady lol? How bad would it be if I only invite the one co-worker and exclude my boss?
Post # 3
@coconutcupcake: I say invite the person you talk to outside of work and not your boss. If you’ve never hung out with your boss outside the office then why invite her to the most intimate ceremony you’ll share with your Fiance and your closest family & friends?
Post # 4
I understand the dilemma, the “to invite or not to invite” has been the dreaded question throughout my wedding planning. I think you should invite the woman you socialize with outside of work and not the boss. They will definitely understand since it is a small wedding!
Post # 5
I would say invite the one co-worker ONLY and exclude everyone else, especially your boss. Your wedding is a personal, intimate day — don’t invite someone (like a boss) just to be politically correct.
P.S.: make sure you explain the situation to your one co-worker, and ask her to keep quite about it around the office. It doesn’t have to be a secret, but don’t openly talk about it in front of others who are not invited.
Post # 6
I agree with PPs. Invite the person you are close with outside of work. If you are close enough to hang out outside of the workplace, then I’m sure you could mention to her that it’s a small affair and you’d like her to attend but couldn’t invited the rest of your co-workers or boss. I’m sure she will understand.
Post # 7
@june2013bride @krrmee5 @FutureMrsLAL @starz88962:
I was debating about inviting my boss for two reasons. Even though she and I don’t hang out outside of work, we are very very close in age and get along amazingly well. I think the reason we don’t hang out outside of work is because of our manager/employee working relationship and we want to keep things professional. But if we had been colleagues, she and I would probably have been friends. She also is always up for chatting about my wedding at work and I get the sense that she anticipates being invited?! Which leads me to reason two…I thought it might be the appropriate, PC thing to do! My mom says so anyway.
Post # 8
I have just started planning and my take on the guest list so far is trying to get that gut feeling…I made a list of all the people I couldn’t imagine getting married WITHOUT and realized that some of the people, etiquitte wise, I should consider weren’t in that gut feeling list. I know when it comes closer and I actually have a venue and have to MAKE the final calls, it will be harder– but for now, I’m trying to avoid the trap of feeling like I should invite certain people because I invited one person from the group/setting.
I completely understand your feeling though. Not sure what I’ll do about my boss…especially because I’m going to her wedding next month. It’s so hard to narrow things down and avoid hurt feelings!
Post # 9
I am sort of in the same boat. I invited the coworkers I am very close with (they are in another office in a different city) and decided the only person from my office I would invite is my boss since his wife and I are pretty good friends. My issue is my coworker in my office came in today asking where we were registered and now I feel terrible for leaving him out.