(Closed) To invite or not to invite?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@coconutcupcake:  I say invite the person you talk to outside of work and not your boss. If you’ve never hung out with your boss outside the office then why invite her to the most intimate ceremony you’ll share with your Fiance and your closest family & friends?


Post # 4
206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I understand the dilemma, the “to invite or not to invite” has been the dreaded question throughout my wedding planning. I think you should invite the woman you socialize with outside of work and not the boss. They will definitely understand since it is a small wedding! 

Post # 5
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would say invite the one co-worker ONLY and exclude everyone else, especially your boss.  Your wedding is a personal, intimate day — don’t invite someone (like a boss) just to be politically correct. 

P.S.: make sure you explain the situation to your one co-worker, and ask her to keep quite about it around the office. It doesn’t have to be a secret, but don’t openly talk about it in front of others who are not invited.



Post # 6
738 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I agree with PPs. Invite the person you are close with outside of work. If you are close enough to hang out outside of the workplace, then I’m sure you could mention to her that it’s a small affair and you’d like her to attend but couldn’t invited the rest of your co-workers or boss. I’m sure she will understand. 

Post # 8
374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I have just started planning and my take on the guest list so far is trying to get that gut feeling…I made a list of all the people I couldn’t imagine getting married WITHOUT and realized that some of the people, etiquitte wise, I should consider weren’t in that gut feeling list. I know when it comes closer and I actually have a venue and have to MAKE the final calls, it will be harder– but for now, I’m trying to avoid the trap of feeling like I should invite certain people because I invited one person from the group/setting.

I completely understand your feeling though. Not sure what I’ll do about my boss…especially because I’m going to her wedding next month. It’s so hard to narrow things down and avoid hurt feelings!

Post # 9
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am sort of in the same boat.  I invited the coworkers I am very close with (they are in another office in a different city) and decided the only person from my office I would invite is my boss since his wife and I are pretty good friends.  My issue is my coworker in my office came in today asking where we were registered and now I feel terrible for leaving him out.  

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