Post # 1
I am sending out my e-invitations tonight for our wedding in September. We sent out Save the Dates quite a few months ago, so most of the guest-list is finalized. However, I am continuously torn about inviting a senior professor (and his wife) that I work closely with. I’m a PhD student, and I would call him a mentor and a friend. Over the past three years, we have exchanged emails almost daily, have had consistent meetings once or twice a week (sometimes more!). We often discuss non-academic topics, and I have gone to dinner with him and his wife, parties at his house, and other events that align with our research interests. However, I’m still not sure if a wedding is too intimate of a day to share with what is essentially a work colleague. I don’t want to make him uncomfortable or feel obligated to come. However, he has asked about the wedding a few times and he lives within walking distance to the venue. I don’t want to offend him by not inviting him either. What would you do?
Post # 2
I would send the invitation. It sounds like you are decently close to both the professor and his wife. They know an invitation is not a summons and can decide what they would like to do, in any case I’m sure they will be flattered to receive the invitation.
Post # 3
Our work friends (for Fiance and I) are on our “B” list, so when we receive the declining RSVP’s we can invite them.
Although that being said it sounds like you are very close with your colleague so I’d say invite him and his wife. The general rule of thumb for us when considering guests for the “A” or “B” list was “how much have they impacted our lives?” and “have we hung out outside of work?”. Sounds like he is a yes to both!
Post # 4
I would invite him. It sounds like he has been a mentor to you and invited you to a lot of outings outside of your PhD program, so it would be a nice way to return the gesture by inviting him to your wedding.
Post # 5
Thanks to all for encouraging me to invite him! I did, and they have already RSVPed ‘yes’ (thanks to the magic of paperlesspost). It was definitely the right decision!
Post # 6
I would invite because it sounds like this person has some meaning/value to your life. And I am sure they would appreciate being invited and would want to be at your wedding!