(Closed) To invite or not to invite?

posted 1 year ago in Guests
Post # 2
2152 posts
Buzzing bee

No I would not invite them. 

It sounds like you had a close relationship, that has passed. 


Post # 3
559 posts
Busy bee

how many people are you inviting?  if this is one additional person out of 150, i say invite her (and give her the option of a plus one if she doesn’t know anyone else).  if its a more intimate wedding of 30-40 people, she may be out of place since it doesn’t sound like your relationship is that close anymore.

Post # 4
4964 posts
Honey bee

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@diana148:  This is exactly what I had in my mind but couldn’t find the right words to put it together LOL

Post # 5
13666 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I would only invite coworkers you see outside of the office in any case and you have no real relationship with her at all at this point. I’d be very surprised to be invited in her place. 

Post # 6
1274 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

I had a similar relationship with a co-worker, he left the company about 2 years before I got married. I invited him and his wife to the wedding, they accepted, but they were no-shows. With hindsight, I wouldn’t invite them if I had the time again, not just because they didn’t turn up, but because the friendship really wasn’t the same by that point.

Post # 7
1927 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

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@g456:  I wouldn’t invite her. You’re not close anymore and probably won’t be close in the future. 

Post # 8
1058 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I’d invite her. It’s her choice if she accepts. I’ve been to several weddings alone where I didn’t know anyone and had a great time. I don’t like it when people don’t invite me because they make assumptions that I wouldn’t want to go. 

Post # 11
595 posts
Busy bee

If it’s 200 people, invite! If 100 or less, then maybe she gets cut.

Post # 12
9439 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I don’t see the harm in sending an invite. If she doesn’t want to come then she’ll politely decline. An invite isn’t a summons. But also she could want to come. Just because you aren’t as close doesn’t mean she wouldn’t enjoy celebrating with you.

I would give her a +1 though if she won’t really know anyone else at the wedding, even if she’s single.

Post # 14
1485 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I personally probably wouldn’t …. I have several work buddies that I do not work with any longer, we too keep in touch VIA social media, but we don’t invite each other to birthdays or get togethers so I wouldn’t think to invite them to my wedding… I do agree that if I was still working with that person I would invite them, but not now.

Post # 15
17 posts
  • Wedding: September 2021

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@g456:  I would just invite her. Even if you give her a plus 1 it would only be two extra people which in the gram scheme of things is not a lot, especially if you are so torn about it. And then it’s her choice if she wants to come or not if she’s not comfortable wi not knowing anyone. I don’t think it would feel like an obligation. She could easily just come up with an excuse as to why she isn’t able to come of she feels bad declining. 

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