(Closed) To invite or not to invite?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I invite her to the wedding?
    No way! That is WAY too much pressure to have your first meeting on your wedding day! : (11 votes)
    79 %
    Invite her- you have to start somewhere! : (3 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
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    287 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I don’t think you will want to deal with any awkwardness on your big day.  Plus, if your guest list is limited, invite someone who is an important part of your life now instead!

    Post # 4
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    221 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I don’t think you are going to have time on your wedding day to renew a strained friendship. But maybe you could call her and let her know your engaged… and see how it goes from there.

    Post # 6
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    1315 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    How are you gonna feel if she asks about the wedding, and you haven’t invited her? Life’s too short, if a good friend is ack in your life, go for it. We’re having a normal, big-ish wedding – about 160 people – and so many of those are people we ‘have’ to have, that I’m insisting on shoehorning in as many friends as possible!

    Post # 7
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    1315 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’m actually also inviting a friend from yesteryear. We were v close in school, then hit bad ground at 17. We found each other on facebook a year or two ago, and have met up a few times since, and I have to say it’s great to have her a part of my life again.

    Post # 8
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    931 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    It’s amazing, but a wedding invite does seem to help renew and revive an old friendship, so I definitely see the impulse. But I think you need to ask yourself how much of what you’re feeling is “obligation” to invite her versus actually wanting her there. Reading your post, I heard a lot of “shoulds” and not a lot of “I have always wanted her at my wedding.”

    Who is the person who gets knocked off the list if she is invited? Fiance and I made a lot of decisions guest v. guest. It’s a bit mercenary, but it really shows you where your cut line should be.

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