(Closed) To invite or not to invite?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It may be a little strange, but I’d go with whatever causes the least amount of drama with your family.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

No, you’re not being unreasonable. It isn’t customary to invite an under 18 date with a guest, especially because it’s not even your actual step brother. I’m completely on your side here but weddings make everyone crazy and irrational so if it isn’t going to break the bank just invite the girlfriend and take satisfaction in knowing you were the bigger person.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Yea that is kind of weird, I thought your question was with the FIL’s girlfriend. But his son shouldn’t feel obligated to take a date. It’s not a big deal if he does.. but why does he need one? His girlfriend doesn’t even know you, and he can hang out with his mom and your dad.

But like others have said, whatever creates the least drama. If your Father-In-Law is going to be really upset if his girlfriend’s son can’t bring a date, then I would just give in. No need to ruin the relationship so soon 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’ve already told our younger siblings/cousins, etc. that their “dates” are not invited since this is an intimate/family only affair. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

16 year old getting a special invite for his date?  that seems odd to me, but thats just me…

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t think a 16 year old, who’s not really related to you in any way shape or form should be given a +1.  I could sort of understand if the 16 year old was your cousin or something like that, but your FIL’s girlfriend’s son?  Come on! 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t think it’s that weird… but I don’t know what your venue set-up / guest limitations are. My mom asked if my brother could bring a friend with him to my wedding, just because he won’t know anyone there. He’s the youngest of the groomsmen and doesn’t know any of them, so my mom thought it would be nice to make him more relaxed.

A girlfriend of 4 years is a long time. This doesn’t sound like some floozy he’s currently with. 4 years is a commitment, and so I’m sure her son is important to her and to an extent your father. If he doesn’t know anyone else at the wedding, or if there’s no one else his age there, it might be a nice gesture on your part to say yes. Of coures, there’s no rule or requirement or whatever. Most of the time when single adults come, it’s because there are other single adults they can talk to. What 16 year old boy *like* hanging out with his parents? If this is going to be like the lone 16 year old, I mean, if I were 16 and going to this wedding, I wouldn’t mind some company.

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