To invite or not to invite – evening edition

posted 1 year ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper

Are you in the UK? Then yes. Otherwise I think it won’t go over well. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee

I think it’s fine to invite your home town friends to the evening do if they’re still local! It’s not a summons, and they don’t have to come if they don’t want to. Plus as the evening doesn’t mean getting a gift, it’s just a fun free party for them and a chance to catch up. I would probably try to reconnect with them first though, just to make sure it still feels natural! 

Family is trickier as it might be awkward if the rest of your family are invited to the ceremony and full day celebrations. Is there not the space/room to invite these other family members for the whole day?

all of this is is guessing evening only invited are normal where you’re from? I’ve picked up from weddingbee that people who haven’t grown up with the idea tend to think evening invites are rude, so maybe steer clear if it’s not the norm!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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Beth7210 :  The fact you use the words “miles” and “hometown” makes me think you are a US bee.

So based on that assumption, no to both.  Tiered receptions are not a cultural thing in America so it would be rude. 

I’m an Australian bee and would never accept an invitation for the evening only unless they were British. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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Beth7210 :  Oh, sorry, my assumption was wrong then. 

In that case, invite the friends to the evening! 

But I don’t think you should invite anyone you hate to the day or the evening, even if they’re family.  That goes that branch of the family.  Weddings are not tit for tat. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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Beth7210 :  My bad, thought you guys used the metric system too. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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Beth7210 :  Oh my god, that’s a mess!  haha.  I don’t understand pounds, inches or miles. 

But yeah, to answer your question I completely stand on don’t invite anyone that you don’t like. I didn’t invite my own mum because I don’t like her.  I did invite her sisters from interstate, but I didn’t invite her sister that is local because I also don’t like her.  I wasn’t going to waste my time and money on people who I wouldn’t ordinarily invite to an event of mine. 

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

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Beth7210 :  having read your updates I also say don’t invite the family you hate and who have treated you badly! You’re not obligated to invite them because you went to your cousins wedding, and you deserve to only be surrounded by people who make you happy on your wedding day!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Friends – yes invite to the evening. Family – this depends. Would you like to leave the door open for a reconciliation in the future? If so invite them to the evening. If not then no.

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