- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
I’m new to the Bee, but I’ve been reading the blogs and I find all the advice and support really helpful, so thought I’d turn to you all for some advice!
I have a relative who I was close with as a child. In the last 10 years we usually speak once a year or so. She got married a few years ago without telling anyone, and I found out along with the rest of the family and congratulated her! A few days after we got engaged last year, I left her a voicemail letting her know the good news.
Long story short, she called a week later, and after a few odd comments finally told me she was offended that I hadn’t asked her to be one of my bridesmaids (as a side note, she also asked my finance’s name during this chat!), because “we’re like sisters.” She said she would just get a dress the same colour as my bridesmaids and “get in the pictures anyway.” She later ignored a few emails from me and deleted me from a social networking site (only to add me back later).
I was really upset about the whole thing, and now don’t know if we should even invite her. My fiance thinks if she’s there, I’ll just worry that she’ll try to cause a scene or upset me somehow (she can definitely be a trouble-maker, but I’d like to think she wouldn’t do that!). I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but really don’t know what to do!!
Our invites are in the mail, I’m running out of time to make this decision. Any advice?? Please help!