Post # 1
ok. i’ll try to keep this short and sweet.
i started a new job about six months ago at a relatively small firm. i work closely w. the CEO, President & Head of Sales, all of whom I’m thinking of inviting to the wedding. A lot of the guys there seem pretty close, but I’m still “new” and not really personally close to anyone yet.
I dont have any constraints about headcount or price, and I’d be delighted if these three wanted to come. BUT the wedding is 700 miles away, and they all have small children (were not inviting kids, mainly bc we dont know any).
Further, I don’t want to seem like I’m inviting them out of obligation or seeking a gift. Or make them feel uncomfortable like i might be upset if they declined. Or that i EXPECT them to fly seven states away on their weekend.
Please let me know. I’ve asked lots of friends and family and no one can give me a really good answer. Please help! Thanks girls!!!
Post # 3
tough call; but once you make a decision, invite all or none of the co-workers…
Post # 4
This is tricky, but it sounds pretty likely that they won’t come. Maybe they’ll see it as a nice gesture and your relationship with them will grow!
Post # 5
I would say this is completely up to you. I think you can go either way with this one.
Post # 6
Send them the invitation – it’s a nice gesture. Then I would mention to each of them that it’s a long way to go, and that you’d be delighted if they came, but you do not expect them to, and that you do not expect gifts from them. I think you can be upfront about it.
Post # 7
I say no. You just started, and the wedding is far away.
Post # 8
I would say if it is close, by all means. But being so far, they might feel obligated to go but really don’t want to. Any possibility of a third option? such as having a little in office celebration party??
Post # 9
I would say you dont HAVE to invite them but if you want to then do it! I dont think they will feel obligated at all! I think they will probably think that it was very thoughtful of you to invite them!! And just because you receieve an invitation to a wedding doesnt mean they have to get you a gift…..maybe they will all say we cant go but then throw you an office party or present a group gift. I think that sometimes in business its good to invite people….especially if you plan to be with the company for a while!