(Closed) To Invite or Not to Invite: We've reached an impasse

posted 4 years ago in Guests
  • poll: Would you invite this guest?

    No - You don't like her, and you have friends who you DO like who could be attending instead.

    Yes - Only if FMIL and FFIL pay for her seat.

    Yes - She's been around for a long time.

    Other - explain in comments

  • Post # 2
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    You don’t need people you don’t like at your wedding, no from me!

    Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I was going to say not to invite her then I got to the part about her being fbil roommate. Invite her but no plus one. 

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    Will you literally be cutting someone from the guest list if you invite her? It’s that tight? If so, then I wouldn’t invite her. If you are just being a little over dramatic because you don’t like her, I’d just invite her (without a plus one) to keep the peace with the in-laws.

    Post # 5
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    How is it awkward for FI’s brothers to go to the wedding without her? Housemates don’t automatically get invites. No need to invite her.

    I assume her mother is no longer invited, is that correct?

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    If you and your Fiance don’t like this girl, I don’t see any reason for her to be at the wedding. Who cares if she’s moving in with your FBILs – does this mean she has to be invited to every family wedding that they’re invited to? Your Future Mother-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law aren’t paying, so they really don’t get any say in the guestlist.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

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    topshelfprincess :  Then don’t invite her. If she asks about it just say you are keeping the wedding small.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    If you don’t want her ttere you don’t have to invite her.

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee

    I would invite her. Why make things difficult for the family you’re joining? The potential of any drama for your future brothers in law would be more than enough for me to extend an invite.

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

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    topshelfprincess :  I wouldn’t invite her. If someone wants to bring her as their +1 then fine, you can’t really stop them, but I say no to an invite of her own.

    If she kicks up a fuss just tell her you’re at capacity and just can’t stretch it.

    X

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee

    Family’s roommates don’t normally get invited to weddings. There’s no need to invite her. If anyone asks just say “Sadly we weren’t able to invite everyone we wanted to share the day with” …may not apply to her, but it sure sounds nicer than “yea, we really don’t like you”

    Post # 14
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    Helper bee

    Just because she is going to be living with family members doesnt owe her an invite.. I dont see how its awkward for the brothers. You would think they would be perfectly content and mature enough to attend their other brother’s wedding surrounded by family and friends and not actually care if she is there or not..  I wouldnt invite her.

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee

    Big HELL NO if this was happening to me. Future Mother-In-Law isn’t friends with her mom anymore, and you guys don’t sound close to her. I don’t care whose room mate she is; that’s their problem. 

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