(Closed) To invite or not to invite…that is the question.

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I invite my best friend?



    Not sure

  • Post # 9
    553 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I would sit down with her and say I want you at my wedding but only if you check your issues at the door. This is my day and you have to smile and love me and be happy that I am happy. If you can’t do this, please do not come. We can still work out our friendship but you should come only if you can come with support and happiness for me.


    If you don’t think she can handle this decision, then maybe you are right. Maybe she shouldn’t be invited.

    Post # 10
    332 posts
    Helper bee

    I was in a similar situation about a month ago however my “friend” is approving of our marriage. But she didn’t get her dress on time and I couldn’t get a hold of her to see what was up. I asked if she wanted to be in the wedding or if she didn’t through a text and she said she got her feelings hurt by that and that its best that she isn’t in the wedding but would love to witness the day. I tried talking to her about it and working something out and was nothing but nice and she would never answer any of my phone calls or messages. I thought best not to invite her because she didn’t find me important enough to be given the time of day to find out what was going on.

    I do know that this will probably end our friendship but in my situation she wasn’t much of a friend to begin with so Im really not missing out.

    I think if she isn’t going to add to your day or make it more special because she is there then maybe she isn’t worth it. But if you decide to not invite her your friendship will most likely end. Bridesmaids are so stressful….ugh! Good luck!!

    Post # 12
    7172 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Whatever she is going through – it’s clear, based on what she told you, that she wants to support you.  I think you should go ahead and invite her.  To not invite her, would be really hurtful and end the friendship – which, it doesn’t sound like you are at that point.

    It also sounds like your relationship needs some work and perhaps some boundaries for both of you – but, that will sort itself out in the future.

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