(Closed) To invite or NOT to invite…..That is the question of the day!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1231 posts
Bumble bee

@bfh426: i’m sure that they would be fine going solo. Especially if they all know and socialize with eachother.

Post # 4
2273 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

No plus ones – unless they will know no one at the wedding… They may not understand now but they will when THEY are the ones having to pay for the wedding hahaha

Post # 5
1200 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I seem to be in the minority but is this a new thing that some people don’t get +1s?  Because I always assumed everybody who isn’t married or close to it gets a “+1” to a wedding. My dad passed away gets a +1 to weddings and typically I’m the one to go with her… if she didn’t have that option she likely wouldn’t go since she’s not totally social and… let’s face it.. even if people know others there, it’s awkward to be alone at a wedding!  Especially if most of your friends have dates…..

I’m planning my guest list around deverybody being able to bring somebody else.  Children invites are very limited (family only) and I’m being choosey with who I invite so that I may offer the comfort of my guests chosing, if they are single or dating somebody just recently, who they’d like to enjoy our moment with…


I’d be pretty upset when I was single if I’d received a no plus 1 invite to a wedding…

Post # 6
196 posts
Blushing bee

Ettiquette says nothing about giving people over a certain age a plus one.  In general it’s expected that you would know the name of the “plus one” because they would be a spouse, fiance(e), or live in partner, and could address the invitation to the both of them.

Post # 7
2584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@CindyRelly: On the other side of that, I feel uncomfortable in front of people, and I don’t want people I’ve never met to watch me so closely all day. If a guest would know absolutely no one else I could understand, but when they all know each other, why extend invitations to people the couple doesn’t even know?

I don’t think there’s a right or wrong way to do it. I’m seriously considering only allowing +1s to people in relationships to cut down on numbers, since I’m WAY over church capacity, ha. I don’t think it’s rude to skip the +1s if your friends will know several other people at the wedding.

Post # 8
2158 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yes, as long as they know other people there, then there is no need to send out a plus one.

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