(Closed) Don’t know if I should invite this co-worker… What do I do???

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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  • Wedding: January 2012

This is a hard one…hmm…

I mean, etiquette rules would say you can’t give a STD card without an invitation.

But I have a question for you- If you didn’t give her an invite, how hellish would it get for you at work after that? Is it worth it? Which choice has the worst consequences?

Post # 6
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  • Wedding: January 2012

Yes, you could do that- maybe better to say that you need a final headcount rather than seating chart since seating charts are usually done last minute.

But if you really really don’t want her to come, then how would aking her change anything?

Post # 8
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Oh I see…how many people are coming to your wedding?

If it makes you feel any better, you will be so distracted by the events and the whirlwind of the day, you may barely notice her.

Another option (although this is in etiquette danger-zone) is to tell her you are so sorry but you made a mistake and cannot fit as many people in your venue as you thought. You could blame it on the venue and say they quoted you the wrong number of people…I know that sounds bad, but I am just trying to think of another option. It seems a shame to have someone you dislike so much at the wedding, especially if it is of a more intimate size…

Post # 11
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@NYshoppingirl: Yeah this is a hard situation..I’m sorry you have to deal with it!

I think you DEFINITELY should not have her at any bridal showers or bachelorettes…no matter what the consequences, I do not want you to have to put up with her during occasions that are all about love and support between women! So please don’t even go there with her.

If I were you I would disinvite her and use the excuse about the venue. But I’m kind of a confrontational person who would address her meanness…

You deserve to have gatherings filled with love and not jerks! She seems so mean…you know, she won’t stop being mean even if she were invited to the wedding…I know you are afraid it’ll be worse, but the sting would probably wear off eventually. Maybe ask some of your other work friends not to tell her they went…would that be possible?

Post # 13
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  • Wedding: January 2012

I see…I honestly think then, that there will be so much good energy, and so many loving people there it will cancel her out! She won’t have as high a profile at your event as much as she does at work…

Speaking with a mutual friend sounds like a good idea.

Post # 15
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  • Wedding: January 2012

No problem! I feel for you, good luck! I’m sure you’ll have a wonderful ceremony!!!

Post # 16
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Hopefully she won’t attend-and even if she does, you will be so happy, you won’t have time to focus on her!  Best Wishes.  🙂

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