Post # 1
We are tryng to infuse some tradition into our reception as I have strong cultutal ties with my european background & doing things slightly ‘modern’. Mum mentioned that (& google has confirmed) that it is customary that the groomsmen cut bits off the grooms tie & auction it off during the reception. According to research it appears this may have been done instead of gifts; we are thinking of going ahead but doing ‘low bids’ (50c / $1) more for the novelty/entertainment & involving the older generation rather than ‘raising money’. If the MC explains the reasoning for the ‘younger gen’ would you think it will be a bit of fun /well received?
(the other suggestion made was to pass around the bride’s shoe for guests to stuff money into – i don’t think so…..!)
Post # 3
I’ve never heard of this one. But personally, I wouldn’t be a fan of it at a wedding. It seems gift-grabby to me.
Post # 4
If this is something the older generation has heard of and would be amused, i don’t see why not.
I guess people will like or dislike this idea based on if they agree with things like the “money dance”, etc.
Post # 5
im an aussie and never heard of it and i asked some of the ladies in my office (46yrs to 21yrs, aussie, italian, british, indian and asian) and they have not heard of it either
i dont think the older generation will get it – if its not part of your actual culture (meaning you dont have to google for info on it) then i think you should not do it
edit: i just googled – apparently its an italian tradition? i just rang my italian mum and shes never heard of it either
Post # 6
Thanks ladies – if we were to go ahead, i really wouldnt want to be seen gift grabby, so maybe lowering the increments to 20c & cutting the price at a couple of dollars or something small…
This tradition came to light from Mum, so i didn’t go looking for it as such… sounds like grandparents have fond memories of it at their wedding…so i would consider it cultural.. What attracts me to it is that not many ppl have heard of it – myself, nor any of my friends – but willing to make changes so that it can be seen in fondness / holding tradition as opposed to gift grabbing
Post # 7
How many people of that older generation will be at your wedding? If there will be a lot and you feel confident that they’ll be happy to see this at your wedding, then I say go ahead. But if it’s mostly a younger crowd with just a few older people, I wouldn’t expect many to participate and it may end up being a let down since it’s a ‘tradition’ that they’re totally unfamiliar with.
Post # 8
Why would anyone want a useless piece of a tie? The whole concept is just strange to me. I get that it may be cultural but unless the vast majority of your guests are aware of this tradition, I think they’ll just find it really weird. And who brings loose change to a wedding? I really can’t picture this going over well. As for the brides shoe, yea, no. That gets a thumbs down from me, too. Far too gift grabby for my comfort.
Post # 9
According to a wedding etiquette book I recently read: In yea olden times it was susperstition that it was good luck to get a piece of the bride/grooms clothes. Apparently things could get pretty crazy with mad crowds of people pulling off pieces of the clothing. This is where the tradition of the garter toss and bouquette too started – a little piece thrown to the crown to apease them so they wouldn’t tear the couples clothes to shreds. I’d bet this tie tradition has similar roots. I’ve certainly never heard about it, but it could be fun. Maybe plant some friends and family that you know will bid?
Post # 10
@JenGirl: I was wondering what the title of the book is? I love that everythign involved in weddings has a reason for it!