(Closed) To keep or drop my middle name?

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: What should my new name be?
    First Middle Maiden NewLast : (14 votes)
    58 %
    First Maiden NewLast : (2 votes)
    8 %
    First Middle NewLast : (8 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 3
    1060 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @iheartmarshall:  I’m not married yet, but my plan is to move my maiden name to my middle name and drop my current middle name. That being said, I will always know what my middle name is, just because the government will no longer put it on my paperwork doesn’t mean that it isn’t part of my identity.

    Likewise, regardless of what your new name is, you will always be Nikki to your family!

    Good luck in making your decision 🙂


    Post # 4
    1193 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @iheartmarshall:  I will keep all four names and I hate my middle name but it was my great grandmothers so I just can’t drop it. 

    Post # 5
    1466 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I have THREE middle names, THREE! It’s a little ridiculous, but fairly common in my culture. My maiden name is very short, so I decided to just add it to the list of middle names, what harm could it do right? So now, I’m First Middle Middleveryveryverylongname Middle Maiden Newlast. It doesn’t fit on all my documents, but most of the time it’s a non-issue. Good luck!

    Post # 6
    1880 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I would just keep all your names and add the new one at the end. Don’t drop any if you don’t want to.

    Post # 7
    6123 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    You can keep your three current names and then add a fourth – your hubby’s last name!  My last name because my second middle name.  You can do that at the SS office. 

    Post # 8
    1668 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I dropped my middle name and made my maiden my middle.  BUT I’ve always hated my middle name so I was HAPPY to do it.  In your case, I would keep all names and just add your newlast to the end.  Rock the two middle names!

    Post # 9
    291 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I’m having a similar issue. No one calls me by my middle name (thank God), but I don’t want to drop it because it was the name my parents chose for me. I too want to keep my maiden, but do not want to hyphenate or have a super long name. The way I see it is I have two options, 1. if it’s super important to me to keep my maiden name I will just have 2 middle names, and a fairly long full name OR 2. I can suck it up and drop the maiden name completely. It will just be so hard to let go of that. Decisions, Decisions!

    In your case though I would just keep your middle name because of the connection with you only being known as Nikki in your family. Just have two middle names!

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