(Closed) To keep or not to keep the dress

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Do you like your dress a lot? I don’t think it matters how much you paid for the dress… Maybe your future daughter will be curious enough to want to wear it, or as a gift to another friend who needs a dress to wear- or just to recoup the cost of the gown…

But you can make a case for giving it away too- consider donating it to Brides Against Breast Cancer would be one organization off the top of my mind.  

Whatever your decision is- I am sure it will be a good choice!


Post # 4
619 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Well I’m not in your boat yet, but I think it’s best to sell it and give another bride the chance to spend their very special day in it too. I also think that a dress is so pretty and has taken such work to make, that it’s a shame to just have it worn once! Good luck figuring it out!

Post # 5
754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I can’t tell you what to do, but I can tell you what I did.  I used WedClean and kept it.  I don’t know if my daughter will wear my dress, but I don’t want to make the decision for her.  By getting rid of it, I have.  If I keep it, she can make that choice herself.  Personally, I would have loved to have worn my mother’s dress, but she didn’t keep it.

Post # 6
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I’m going to go ahead and get mine cleaned – I’m also using WedClean.  I have no idea what I’m going to do with the dress!  It would look gorgeous on my stepdaughter, but is probably too short for her.  I have no idea when I would wear it again, but I can’t see getting rid of it right now.  But I also can’t see letting the stains set into the fabric!  Mine is just a little grey around the hem, and I got a little mud splashed on the skirt in our day-after photography, but I’m sure it will clean up beautifully.  After that it will probably just sit in a box in the closet, at least until I decide what to do with it, but that’s okay.

Post # 8
1091 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor

I’m going the glam the dress/trash the dress route.  I know it probably isn’t the most popular route, and I do plan on saving scraps in case my*future* daughter would like some of the material, and I’ll be taking off all the buttons from my grandmother’s dress.

We’ll play soccer, hike in the woods, and even go swimming; an homage to how we fell in love and our favorite places.  If my dress and its delicate beading survive all this, then it deserves to be preserved 🙂 However, I am saving and preserving my birdcage veil.  

Post # 9
38 posts

My fiance’s mom kept her dress and wore it again when they renewed their vows 20 years later – and YES she still fit into it! (I guess that’s motivation to stay in shape! lol)  I kind of like the sentiment of keeping it for an isntance like that, or to allow your daughter the option of wearing it.  My grandmother was married in her mom’s dress and has pictures of her and her friends playing dress up with it when they were teenagers.. If I didn’t keep it though, I would do a trash the dress shoot or donate it (or both!)

Post # 10
17 posts
  • Wedding: May 2009

I can’t see myself selling it.  I’m not usually the type to hold onto something that doesn’t serve some sort of purpose, but I want it.

Bridemarie- it would be a great ispiration to stay fit.  Maybe that can be my excuse.

Post # 12
2889 posts
Sugar bee

I bought my dress from David’s on sale and I just don’t see it as a potential family heirloom. I am considering that it may be nice to make a christening outfit for my future children from the train but I would also love to do some trash the dress photos and take it in the ocean. I plan on deciding after the wedding and I guess it will depend if I want photos or a potential project.

Good luck in your decision. I would have loved to wear my mom’s dress for the sentimental value but a) she 3 sizes smaller than me when she got married and b) she lost track of it while moving some years back so I don’t even have the option to have it altered. It may be nice to provide that option for your future daughter, if nothing else, it will be nice to show her the dress and recall your own wedding day.

Post # 13
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

My sister wore my mother’s dress!  It actually fit her very nicely.  I would have thought about it, but I’m several sizes smaller, and several inches taller – and although it wasn’t an expensive dress at the time, it’s got a complicated lace overlay that would make altering it a lot of work.  However, it was a really wonderful thing for both my sister and my mom to have her wear my mom’s dress – and absolutely worth keeping it around for.  Even if she hadn’t worn it, I remember getting to look through her cedar chest as a child, and see the dress, the veil, the box of cards and left-over favors, and I always thought it was wonderful.

Post # 14
398 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

I have a very simple dress (also relatively cheap) approximately $700.  I am planning to dye the dress and shorten it to a cocktail length so I can use it many years to come.  The rest of the dress which will be cut I will be keeping for material for anything I might want to make down the line (think baby basonet lining, pillows, etc).

 Good Luck deciding.

Post # 15
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I had a very simple dress (off the rack evening gown purchased from a department store), and I had it cleaned at my regular dry cleaners afterward (The $2 dry cleaners, and they did a great job).  Right now, it is still on the hangar in my closet, but I plan on keeping it and storing it in a box with acid free tissue paper.  I am actually hoping I can have some opportunity to wear it again, like maybe we can get really really dressed up for New Year’s this year or something. 

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