(Closed) To kilt or not to kilt

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: What would you do?
    Have the kilt and not worry about how it looks : (11 votes)
    44 %
    Have the kilt and use red in the bouquets; it won't look like Christmas! : (2 votes)
    8 %
    Have the kilt and use red in the bouquets; it will look like Christmas but who cares? : (3 votes)
    12 %
    No way! The groomsmen should be wearing the same style of tuxedos or suits : (9 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 3
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Hmm, I’m guessing your brother isn’t the best man?If he’s not, I do think it would look a little strange having one member of the bridal party in a kilt if no one else is. It’d be different if he was just a guest, but being in the bridal party is definitely going to make him stand out…

    Post # 4
    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    If your brother was the best man I’d say you could maybe get away with it (but I still wouldn’t be a fan).  I’m guessing that he isn’t your FI’s Bridesmaid or Best Man though so I think it would look very strange to have just one member of the bridal party in a kilt.

    Post # 5
    22 posts
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Personally, I have always thought that the family tartan is something to be proud of. So what if he doesn’t match? You seem quite proud of your family heritage, why not show it off?

    What does the Fiance think?

    Post # 6
    140 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Who cares if it doesn’t match!  I’m very Irish, and I felt the same way, so I crammed Irish things in wherever I could.  Mix it up a little, I bet guests, esp your side, will love it!

    Post # 7
    35 posts
    • Wedding: July 2011

    It doesn’t have to match. At many formal events or weddings you will find a mix of kilts and suits/tuxes. Not all Scots like the kilt – especially in summer. If your brother wants to wear one it will look fantastic in photos.

    Post # 8
    449 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Maybe get tartan ties to match your brother’s kilt for the other groomsmen. And you could wear a traditional tartan sash.


    And this is fun too, for you, a tartan garter: http://www.burnetts-struth.com/product_info.php?products_id=436

    Consider putting something in the program that describes your Scottish heritage and tartan traditions.

    Post # 9
    97 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Would you consider wearing a Tartan Sash? I saw that in a movie, Man of Honor, and even though the bride wasn’t thrilled, I thought it was a great idea!


    EDIT: I didn’t see that someone before me suggested it. In that case, I second the suggestion!

    Post # 10
    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think it would be great if you could figure out a way to incorporate your tartan into your dress, too.  Even if you feel the sash is a bit much, you could make a big fabric flower to attach to your dress or wrap your bouquet. 

    Bravo to your brother for embracing the tradition.  Being part Scots myself, I think a kilt is damn sexy on a guy Wink.

    Post # 11
    875 posts
    Busy bee

    Have your brother and your father wear the kilt… and have your florist use the tartan in ribbon form on the flowers… or have your mom wear the color’s proudly in formal Scottish attire.  You are not leaving your clan… you are joining his clan to yours… In formal terms your new family will be a sept of your old family.  Perhaps your groomsmen would wear ties and matching tartan cumberbunds in they aren’t into the kilt! You could try to find his Polish crest to add to the men’s flowers.

    Post # 12
    151 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Mllefrog – I think you’ll find that the vast, vast majority of Scot’s men are extremely proud of their national dress – and so they should be!!!

    JenniferK6 – I think you could have your brother in a kilt, as long as you’re going to incorporate other Scot’s elements into your day, otherwise it could look a bit random 🙂  What about having heather or thistles for your mens buttonholes, tied with the tartan, having your bridesmaids bouquets tied with tartan ribbon, having shortbread or whiskey favours?  I was going to say you could have Irn Bru at your reception but I know you guys can’t get it in the states yet….Scottish food or entertainment?  If you’re looking for genuine Scottish traditions, give me a shout – I am Scottish after all 🙂  Some Scottish music at the reception?  (try Runrig – Loch Lomond, as it’s traditionally the last dance at our receptions)

    A tartan garters a nice idea.  Here’s a thought, why don’t you get your side of the family to wear kilts (think you should be able to hire them fairly cheaply).  Traditionally at a Scot’s wedding everyone should wear their own family tartan, but you can just pick one – the Saltire tartans lovely, or the Flower of Scotland.

    I think it’s a lovely idea if you do it properly, good luck! xxx

    Post # 14
    35 posts
    • Wedding: July 2011


    My father and uncle (Glasgow) won’t wear them. To each his own.

    Post # 15
    11093 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011


    Glad you’ve decided to go for it as you can tell it means alot to you. Yeah there are loads of ways of incorporating it. I was also going to suggest ribbon around your bouquet, you could name your reception tables after the clans involved in your family, tartan material wrapped around the napkins, a tartan bow or material on the place cards, loads of things. Good luck!

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