Post # 1
I’m so back and forth on this! Ugh. On the one hand I want as much picture time with minimal stress as possible, on the other hand, I love the idea of him seeing me for the first time when those church doors open!
Please vote and explain why you chose the way you did.
Post # 2
My husband saw me for the first time as I was walking down the aisle and he bawled like a baby! It was SO worth the wait!!
Post # 3
I want to have one for the photo logisitcs and so that we can spend a few minutes together before the ceremony.
Post # 4
I went back and forth as well but ended up doing a first look because the sun would soon be setting after our ceremony leaving minimal time for pictures.
I don’t regret doing a first look at all. ThE pictures are some of my favorite, he still cried as I walked down the aisle and I got to enjoy my cocktail hour.
Post # 5
We are doing a first look!
The reason is mostly photo logistics, and having a few minutes alone before the wedding. I will be a nervous wreck because we will have to be up in front of so many people and he can calm me down. 🙂 You’ll still get his reaction no matter which you choose!
Post # 6
Thank you for all the replies, but they’re not helping. Waaah. Everybody is saying exactly what I was going back and forth on, haha. It seems like everybody is happy with what they chose, so that is reassuring 🙂
Post # 7
We did a first look because we wanted to see each other for the first time without anyone else in the room. Having that private moment is something I can’t describe….I’m just so glad we did it.
Post # 8
Chaitea: We did first look photos for logistical reasons, but like stephfilly mentioned, I wanted a few moments alone with my husband to be before the ceremony, and it was just as emotional for us when I walked down the aisle.
I also really loved seeing his reaction up close.
A good compromise is to do first touch photos where each of you are around a corner of a door or wall, so you’re still hidden but you can talk to each other, hold hands, exchange gifts, etc… but your first look will still be down the aisle.
You can’t go wrong with either choices!
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
Chaitea: We didn’t do a first look at the insistence of my husband. I wanted one, but now I am glad we didn’t. He cried when he saw me coming down the aisle and that is priceless. What we did instead is directly after the ceremony just the two of us and the photographers went to the garden outside the church for a quick photoshoot. It was so great to have that time together right after being married, because that was the only alone time we had for the rest of the night. If you decide to forgo the first look, I recommend doing this! It was really special and intimate!
Post # 10
We didn’t have a first look. I think it isn’t as common in Aus. I’ve seen shoots of it before but no one I know has had one. I think the photos of them seeing you first when you walk down the aisle are priceless. And we had plenty of photo time in between. Plus that way we got time for photos of just us as well as the bridal party. plus logistically for us photos before wouldn’t have been better anyway as there would be time to kill between ceremony and reception.
Post # 11
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
We’re not sure yet. It’s really up in the air as to what we can afford as we really want an hour of photos inside the Disneyland park before the ceremony. If that’s the case then that would certainly count as our first look, but if we can’t get inside the park then we’ll wait for the actual ceremony.
That being said, one idea I’m considering because I still want his first time seeing me in my gown to be unique to the aisle, is wearing a different dress for the first look photos. I’m considering altering my aunt’s old wedding gown and wearing it for first look photos as it’s a little more playful and easier to move around in, and that way when it comes to the actual ceremony it will still be his first time seeing me in my own gown. Again, we haven’t really decided anything 100% yet, but that’s the idea I’m working with for right now.
Post # 12
Chaitea: I didn’t want to do one because I wanted Fiance to see me the first time walking down so he’d get emotional(hehe) but decided to do one. We want to have a special and private “first moment”.
Post # 13
- Wedding: Stonehouse at Stirling Ridge
I can totally relate ! I’ve been struggling on whether or not I want to do a first look and i think I’ve come to a comprise…while we won’t technically be doing a first look I think we will settle for a “First touch” …I love the anticipation behind these photos and it’s a nice way of remembering the excitement that was going on the day of : )
Post # 14
You really can’t go wrong with either. And, technically, the first time he sees you whether it’s before the ceremony or as you’re walking down the aisle is still “the first look.”
I was always against first looks because, tradition. But when my husband and I actually sat down to discuss it, he said that he’d feel much more relaxed and calm if he got to see me beforehand, alone. So that’s why we did it. He was very very emotional (basically folded like a lawn chair over me crying) and it was one of my favorite parts of the day. We also got amazing pictures from it.
If you’re worried about a first look taking anything away from your walk down the aisle, trust me, it won’t. That moment is a moment itself and nothing will change it.
Post # 15
Chaitea: we decided not to do a first look because we wanted that down the aisle moment 🙂 we did do the “first touch” between a door thing like was mentioned above…and it was so awesome!
we also set aside about 30 min after the ceremony for pics of just the two of us and we had them go ahead and start serving dinner…we went on our own time, and ate afterwards. we kind of built that time in ahead of time so we knew we’d have the opportunity. it worked out great.
i think first looks are so adorable though. but i can tell you this – my husband and i were both so emotional that morning we probably would have cried our eyes out and ruined my make up. that kind of intimate moment would have been too emotional for both of us to handle lol!