(Closed) To Look or Not To Look?

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: When to see each other
    We will (did) have a first look : (48 votes)
    56 %
    We won't (didn't) see each other until I'm walking down the aisle : (38 votes)
    44 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    LOL – I just posted this same thread the other day ๐Ÿ˜‰

    No way – I am keeping myself hidden until the big reveal lol

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    We’re not doing a first look, but I know a couple who did because the groom was getting cold feet, so the bride scheduled a first look.  It calmed the groom down and they went through with the wedding.

    Post # 6
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I keep going back & forth on this… some days I want to get ready with him. Other days I want to keep it all a surpise. We will do a first look for photos though… I love the mood of first look photos. They’re intimate & sweet. They have a totally different vibe than after wedding shoots! After the wedding you’re just on top of the world ๐Ÿ™‚ lol I want to have a quiet moment between the two of us before the craziness starts!

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I wish we had done a first look, but mainly because the weather was better before the cermony.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    When we first started planning, we were ALL about not seeing each other beforehand. We thought it would be so romantic to have that special moment coming down the aisle.

    But, our photographer and DOC convinced us to have a first look, and I’m SO glad we did for many reasons:

    1. I don’t even remember my walk down the aisle. It went by so fast, and I’m glad that during the first look, I was able to stop, pause and really look at my husband’s face when he saw me. Because I don’t remember what he looked like during the aisle walk!

    2. The first look is more intimate, and like I said above, you take your time. Our photog gave us five minutes after the first look to go off by ourselves without being photographed to chat and take-in the moment.

    3. You get more pictures without sacrificing time. AND you can probably attend your cocktail hour because that’s usually when couples go off to do their portraits. Being at cocktail hour was great. We had more time with our guests, and during our portraits before the ceremony, we didn’t feel at all rushed.

    4. It really takes the pressure off. Our DOC told me horror stories about brides who just made themselves so sick with nervousness before walking down the aisle because they wanted to look perfect. Some felt like they were going to pass out, and others started to cry. It’s very emotional because it’s also in front of everyone, but with a first look, there isn’t as much pressure. Or, if there is, you get it done beforehand, and you can relax a little before the aisle walk.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Our ceremony and reception are at the same venue, and I want to be able to enjoy our cocktail hour with our guests. So, we’re doing all of our posed pictures prior to the ceremony.

    Post # 10
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I agree with a lot of the points that Miss Chapstick made.  I am so glad that we had it because it gave us the chance to get away for some pictures together without making people wait a long time before dinner (we had our ceremony and reception at the same location).  I don’t really remember my husband’s look as we walked down the aisle because the ceremony went by so quickly.  I’m glad we had the time together beforehand.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee

    We’re doing a first look so we can get the photos out of the way and be able to spend as much time as possible with our guests at the reception.  Our photog also said she LOVES doing first look shots because she usually gets amazing pics that way.

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We are doing a first look. It will help us be more calm for the cceremony and I think it will be more memorable.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I was just about to create this thread but decided to search to see if one had been made before! Any more thoughts on this from brides who have done first looks or not? It is **so** stupid but I’m worried we’ll be jinxed if he sees me before the wedding! I keep going back and forth….. can’t decide!

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We are doing a first look and doing all our posey posey couple pictures before our wedding ceremony so that way we can just enjoy our wedding our friends and family and most importantly Each other

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    He is def. not seeing me until I walk down the aisle!! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 16
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    I can definitely see the benefits of both, but we’re choosing not to have a first look. Part of it stems from the fact that every time we’ve ever been to a wedding together, we watch the GROOM when the bride is walking down the aisle, not the bride…just because his reaction is always priceless. So, since that’s always been important for us, we know we want it to be a total surprise for him!

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