I’m curious to know what you define as healthy. Because if you’re honesty already just healthy and ‘big’, who the f cares about what you look like in pictures?
Don’t lose weight because you’re “supposed to” or because that is what people do before a wedding.
That is just.. Not right, in my opinion. If you’re honestly happy and healthy at the weight you’re at then be you, wear your dress with pride and rock it. If 200+ is the way you’re supposed to be then so be it. Pictures and societal norms and what the other girls do is just not relevent.
Now the fact that you’re even asking this question leads me to honestly believe otherwise. If you really felt you were healthy and the way you’re supposed to be, why even bother posing the question? Wouldn’t you just keep being you and go about your life/wedding?
Lets be realistic. If you could lose so much weight that your skin would be saggy and your tattoos would change shape and you think your head will be too big for your body, are you really the healthiest you can be? Or are you just medically healthy enough to not get told it’s not healthy?
I weighed 230+ at one point in my life. Before I had even hit 20 years old for that matter. Did I think it was ‘fine’? Absolutely. Did a doctor EVER tell me I was overweight? Not once. I was 18, 5’3 and 230 pounds. And it’s not like I never went to the doctor. I did, even for medical issues that I now know were because of my weight. Did they tell me that? No mam they certainly did not. I was medically ‘healthy’ with a ‘few extra pounds’
Was I actually healthy? Far from it. Could I stand to lose weight? Absolutely. As it turns out, I could stand to lose almost half my body weight.
And I did. It took me a lot of years of sorting out what healthy was and healthy wasn’t. It took me toiling away and figuring it out because no, the doctors never told me. No one ever said “hey lala, if you don’t get this under control, it’s going to become a problem”
I turn 25 this year and I haven’t broken 150 in the last four years. I sit around 130-140 and you know what? I could still stand to be healthier. Mostly because it’s not about the number. And it shouldn’t be. It’s about how I feel, how my bones and body feels, what I eat and how much exersize I get.
I get what you’re saying and I know the pressure you’re talking about. The pictures, the people, the ever lasting impression you leave on all those people who are going to watch you walk down the aisle. I still, even when I sit at 130 pounds and see a “skinny” girl in the mirror, wonder what I could do to make myself ‘better’ for my wedding day. My abs, my thighs, my back.
But when it crosses my mind and I really think about it, it’s not for them. It’s for me. For my body, my health, and my longevity. It’s because I could stand to lose the fat on my stomach, could stand to get out and get more exersize in a day and I could stand to eat a little healthier and care more about my health.
Its not for the pictures. Its for me.
Do I look different? I sure do. Do I have extra skin that I don’t always like? Yup.. No pretending I don’t. But it bounces back and it is bouncing back. With time and exersize and a healthy diet, I am becoming the healthiest person I can be. And I will keep trying forever. Long past our wedding and ten year anniversary and hopefully many anniversaries afterwards.
If you’re doing it just for the pictures or because youre supposed to, it’s not worth it because a) it’s not for you and b) it won’t stick and will just make you miserable.
I say go for it though, because there’s never a wrong time to decide you’re going to live a healthier lifestyle. If you change your life for the better and as a result, you change your tattoos and the way your head looks on the top of your body then so be it. If it’s the way you are at your healthiest then you WILL recognize yourself. And you will be happy.
If you’re healthy and happy the way you are, dont change, not for anything.
If you can stand to be healthier than there’s no time like the present. What will be will be.