(Closed) To my fellow Type-A, OCD, brides…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yes, I went very much back & forth. I had a vintage venue, but I *love* all things elegant. I just went with the things I liked (last minute, I really started to not care so much, because I was crunched), and I actually loved the juxtaposition. Do you have pics of what things you might be mixing? I’m sure we could give more specialized input 🙂

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have severe OCD (as in I need medication and see a psychiatrist), so I more than understand the overwhelming feeling of not being “matchy matchy.”  I still worry daily that it looks stupid that my ivory dress and FI’s ivory shirt and tie will not match the Tiffany blue and diamond white decor–and flower girl dress and bridesmaid dress.  If I were you, I would pick one or the other in the elegant vs. vintage debate.  If you are seriously type A, trying to mix the two and worrying about the results will drive you crazy.  It might be easiest to go vintage since your wedding is in a vintage location.  And I think vintage can be done very elegantly.   

And I am saying the following through gritted teeth because it is what everyone keeps telling me, and I am having to force myself to believe it: at the end of the day, your love will be what is remembered.  It doesn’t matter if your venue is vintage and your decor is elegant, because everyone will be focused on how lovely you look and how much your groom is in love with you.  🙂

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Miss Heirloom:  I posted before I saw your pics.  HOLY COW!  No wonder you love your venue–it is phenomenal!!  I wouldn’t care if you had camouflage as your decor because those spaces are breathtaking.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ah. They do mix, where they most easily overlap, which is the Gilded Age. That’s where the sort of vintage you’re going for meets elegant – think of the tycoons on vacation, when they went to the Adirondacks or Jekyll Island or The Greenbriar, or relaxing at Acadia or Newport. Relaxed, a bit rustic, but still with champagne and silk.  

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think your areas are *definitely* elegant enough to do an elegant wedding (even if you have a rustic twist) no worried! Seriously, it will be lovely, I would not worry about it.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@ProfessorGirl:  This is what I was thinking….and somehow The Great Gatsby comes to mind…not sure why! lol

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Oh I feel for you, as just this weekend I made another ring bearer pillow as my first one  was white lace and my dress is ivory!  My grandmother once said “sometimes you need to do things for your soul”, meaning go with what you like! If you love canning jars go for it! The type of flower or candle will dictate if it is country, vintage, elegant. Your venue is so lovely , it will work out! 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

@Luayne:  Fitzgerald was all about the Gilded Age. Fabulous. (…. you know, except for the seedy underbelly of excess and lack of humanity…. but they did have great decor)

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Miss Heirloom:  Sorry I don’t have any advice for you.  But I have to ask, are you getting married in San Diego?  That venue is beautiful.  I didn’t see anything like that when looking for places to get married (we’re getting married in San Diego).

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@ProfessorGirl:  +5 awesome historical context.

Seriously though, what she said. Start thinking of adjectives and elements that carry across both looks: lush, fresh, romantic, quality, harmonious, etc etc. Pick decorative elements which could work in either scheme: ie, clear glass as a unifying decorative theme, whether that results in tall fluted centerpieces or candy jars (or both in different parts of your reception!)

See if you can game your OC by saying that you’re losing the elements from both looks which don’t meet your standards.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Having seen the photos of your venue, I think what you are now shooting for is classic and elegant without being extremely formal, which would be hard to pull off outdoors. There is definitely a middle ground between tall centerpieces and ones in mason jars. I would stay away from vintage and distressed items (ie: the bridal suite sign) which I do not feel fit the wedding you want. Just because they could work in your venue does not mean it requires them. Try to stay away from modern, trendy items in your wedding.

Just my 2 cents.

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