(Closed) To or Not To first look???

posted 8 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: First Look
    Yes : (84 votes)
    62 %
    No : (51 votes)
    38 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    We’re doing one.  It’s more time for pictures and it allows us that more personal moment when we first see each other.  Plus, we’ll have seen each other when we first wake up anyway so we’ll just part ways to get ready and then do a first look.

    Post # 4
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    1940 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Having a first look and time together before the ceremony was quite literally my favorite part of the day.  I would definitely do it again!

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee

    Yes all the way. I’ve been in tooo many weddings where they ran out of time to do pictures. If you have a ‘gap’ then there is no need. If you don’t have the gap, then you should do a first look.

    Post # 6
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    18644 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I loved our first look.  It gave us time alone and time to get great pictures.  We still missed most of our cocktail hour for family pictures but it was worth it.  The walk down the aisle was still so special so don’t let that deter you.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    It really has to be your decision based on your day and what you want. I feel like everyone is SO pro first look now that the other side gets a bit lost in the comments. Doing a first look makes a ton of sense practically, and honestly if it was solely up to me we’d probably do one too just so I wouldn’t stress about pictures… but here is why we’re not: 

    My fiance doesn’t want to! We grow up thinking about what our weddings are going to be like and for the most part, our fiances don’t. But the one thing he says he has always pictured is seeing his future wife for the first time as he walked down the aisle. It is kind of the only thing that is REALLY important to him. And really… I think it is going to be super sweet to do this one thing in a traditional way and see each other for the first time like that. I care a lot more about candid than posed photos anyways… my wedding is going to be about the WEDDING and the marriage, and while a photographer will be there to capture the day, the day is NOT about getting pictures. 

    Post # 8
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Yes yes YES! It gives you more time for pictures and intimate time with your SO on your big day – what more could you ask for!

    My first look pictures are my favourite of the day! Here is my first look recap.

    And IMO it didn’t take away from the aisle moment at all – it was still an amazing PERFECT moment!

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee

    I want to have a first look; Fiance does not.  It’s the one thing he’s being a traditionalist about.  He doesn’t want to see me until I walk down the aisle.  I hate to keep our guests waiting while we’re taking pictures (we figured we’d do as many as possible beforehand.  Me with the groomsmen, him with the bridesmaids…anything we can get done without seeing each other).  I’d still rather get ours done, too, but I’ll let him have his not seeing me thing.  I’m not willing to fight with him over it when I have so much control over everything else wedding related (by his own choosing…all he cares about is food and booze…I’m not putting words in his mouth; he actually said that).

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I had never heard of a first look until the bee so I voted no. Even though it’s a pain for pictures, I can’t picture walking down the aisle and having it not be the first time my groom sees me.

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Doing a first look allowed us to take a ton of pics ahead of time.  The bridal party was especially happy about it.

    That said, I few suggestions.  Do it along.  Ours was awkward with people around.  Also…make sure you or your photographer have planned how it will happen.  You should be walking up to your fiance (from behind), not the other way around.  Or come around a corner.  My photog had Darling Husband come down steps behind me and so he didn’t get a full-length look at me.  I wasn’t happy about how it happened, but I was still happy with seeing him before the ceremony and taking tons of group shots.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I am really excited for our first look, I think it will be a really special time.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    So many advantages! You can see your love in a private moment and just get to enjoy how handsome/beautiful each of you are. You get a little bit of the jitters out of the way. You can squeeze in some great photos, while your hair and makeup are still fresh – and once the party starts, you don’t have to get torn away from it all to take pictures. You can have some pretty great backdrops for your pics!

    We are totally doing it!

    Post # 14
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    it gives you so much more time for pictures.  we did our first look and formal pictures before and then after the ceremony we went and did some more alone pictures.  We were able to then attend part of the cocktail hour.

    Post # 15
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    690 posts
    Busy bee

    We decided to keep things pretty traditional, and have the first time he see’s me be when I walk down the asile. 

    Post # 16
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It depends on what you want. We aren’t traditional so we are doing first look and our couple photos before the ceremony. Then after we can do the family/bridal party. That was we aren’t keeping our guests waiting. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to do it.

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