(Closed) To pick up, or not to pick up??

posted 10 years ago in Family
  • poll: What would you do?
    Pick them up and change other plans/meetings around and be their chauffeur for the weekend : (4 votes)
    9 %
    Politely suggest that they rent a car to get them around the city our wedding venue is in : (26 votes)
    55 %
    Just say you're unable to do it : (12 votes)
    26 %
    other: please explain below! : (5 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    13095 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    It is not the responsibility of you and your Fiance to be their chauffeur.  I would NEVER expect to travel out of town and not provide my own transportation either through carpooling with friends, renting a car, etc.  Let them know that you will be unable to pick them up and recommend that they rent a car.  Don’t change your schedules to chauffeur them.

    Post # 4
    4023 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think they should rent a car. It is rude to fly into town for someones wedding, 2 days before the wedding and expect them to be able to cater to you. they are grown women and should take care of themselves. Plus, they really should know that you are going to busy with finishing stuff up for the wedding and trying to see all the family.

    Post # 5
    118 posts
    Blushing bee

    I would just tell them exactly what you told us…that you are going to be busy finshing up some last minute wedding details that day. Tell them that you have some meetings with vendors  which you don’t know how long they will take and you would hate to have to cancell on picking them up on the last minute if the meetings go over. It looks like you’re unsure if any other family will be there on Thursday so you can’t ask another family member to pick them up.

    I’m sure if you explain this potitely, they should be undersstanding of the situation. It’s funny they even asked…I would never outwardly ask the bride or groom to drive me aroundduring their wedding weekend.

    Post # 6
    690 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Hire a car to pick them up from the airport.

    Post # 7
    2015 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Can another member of the family pick them up? How far away is the airport from the destination?

    We also had a destination wedding, and the airport was about 30 mins each way from our hotel. We picked up close family members from the airport on Thursday because we didn’t want them to have to incur the cost of a rental car if it wasn’t necessary. I didn’t pick up anyone, but my mom, Mother-In-Law and brother-in-law did. They didn’t mind at all, and I got to finish up our vendor meetings. Everyone was happy 🙂

    Post # 8
    406 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011


    i agree its wrong to put you in that position if youre so busy, but maybe they have no idea how busy you are

    i agree with the above suggestions of either hiring a car to pick them up and/or having someone else pick them up.

    hiring a car shouldnt be too expensive and maybe when they find out how busy you are and had to do taht they will even help chip in for the cost

    also, if you ask someone else, i’m sure people woudl be more than willing to help out for the wedding. people understand that traveling is difficult and at least in my experience are more than willing to help out where they can, it makes them feel useful!

    Post # 9
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’m probably going to be the voice of dissent, but I would try to pick them up.  How far away is the airport?  Can someone else (family, friends) possibly pick them up if you don’t have enough time?

    I wouldn’t consider it “chaffuering” them around if you just have to pick them up from the airport. 

    Post # 10
    332 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I would just send them a polite e-mail explaining that you will be too busy with wedding related appointments to make it out to the airport. You could also give them links or phone numbers for local cab services or car rental companies.

    Post # 11
    1209 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I agree with hotchildinthecity. I would try to pick them up. It is your FH’s favorite aunt and his grandmother, not random guests. =)

    Post # 13
    2467 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    since the email was to your ffil too, i would delegate responding to the email and figuring out who picks them up to him. even if they may not be in town yet, it’s his mom and sister–he should know how to respond to them best

    Post # 14
    7052 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    If they are staying at a hotel or resort, find out if the place has a free shuttle to and from the airport there and arrange for that.  I think that is fair.

    I would not be playing chauffeur, as there are others I am sure who would love to take you both up on having be picked up and delivered back to the airport but you cannot accomodate everybody.

    If the resort doesn’t, is there a member of the bridal party who can do this for you?  Parent? 

    Post # 15
    5789 posts
    Bee Keeper

    If no one can pick them up,can you find out about the airport shuttle bringing them? I’d have that info on hand first so you’re not just saying no,but offering a solution by making some arrangements for them. They really can’t argue with that. 🙂

    Post # 16
    326 posts
    Helper bee

    can you not just get them a taxi from the airport? say that unfortunatly you’ll be rushed off your fett but you can arrange to have one meet them there

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