(Closed) To plus one or not?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 62
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Newbee

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@miss-stacie-2013:  I think the problem is that when some get +1s and others don’t, the ones who don’t definitely get the message that they “weren’t worthy”. That’s why a consistant approach is best — it’s either only people who are a publicly recognized social unit (engaged, living together) or it’s all singles. 

Post # 63
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2013

We are having a wedding on a budget. I have invited friends who are married, engaged with their partners to the whole day. Others have had their partner invited to the evening only.

partners that are invited to the evening I have never met anyway. 

Most people have completely understood. i only invited two work colleagues that I get on with extremely well and their long term partners are not invited. Both of them have been completely understanding as well and are just looking forward to the day!

one person had a go at me on the phone about her partner only coming to the evening and I was very upset.

on a budget you really struggle. 

You can’t please everyone and as all my mates have been saying to me… ‘Its about you and your fiancé and what the two of you want, everyone should understand’

Post # 64
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think people that are in serious relationships should also be given a plus one. 

Post # 65
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

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@MsVoyageur:  

Yup, my sister is bringing her boyfriend of one month to our engagement party. It doesn’t worry me because it’s a casual thing, but if it were my wedding? That would have made me VERY angry. I’ve never met the guy, one month is way too soon to be considered serious enough to get a plus 1.

Post # 67
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Blushing bee

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@KiawahSC:  LOL I guess once SO proposes this weekend we’ll be “worthy” of both getting invites…Does that really make such a difference to everyone when they all KNOW we are eventually getting married (Even without a ring right now)?

Post # 68
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@drummerbride:  I was with my fiance for 5 years before we got engaged and we do not live together. To say that didn’t sound serious is offensive to me. Some people don’t believe in living together before marriage or at least engagement.

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