(Closed) To Post Boudior or Not To Post Boudior …..

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Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Funny -when I was younger (I’m 32) i had no sense of the impact of those kinds of things, so I probably wouldn’t have cared. Now, though, knowing the unlimited reach of the internet and the *permanence* of it, I just wouldn’t want to make the kind of commitment to have those photos out in cyberspace and beyond my control… potentially for a LONG TIME. Who’s to say some boss in the future won’t see them? Or my mother-in-law? Or my kids? I basically wouldn’t post something online I’m not comfortable wearing to work (that includes bathing suits – if it’s digital, it’s around forever.. wearing it to the beach for a few hours does not have an impact on my future).

That being said: other Bees can do whatever the heck they like. That should be everyone’s mantra about everything! To each their own ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I love my b-pics and part of me would love to share them, but I wouldn’t. Not here. We have zero privacy here, anyone with internet access is one google search away from seeing those photos. More than the skin they show, those photos are meant to be provocative and sexual. I would be mortified about the possibility of my coworkers or family coming across them. My sexuality is a big part of me, but not part of the image I want to share with the rest of the world.

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@mishelleez: Please know this has no bearing on your photos or your decision to post your pics…I thought they were gorgeous! If someone else’s comfortable posting their own pics, I have no problem looking at them ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 35
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@Mrs.KMM: I hate to say it, but the majority of posters (myself included) make it pretty easy to find out more. Many people use their screen names for more than one thing, and if any one of those accounts has a name attached – even a benign one, like Twitter- they’d know to just search the screen name. 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@Mrs.KMM: i have thought about this too (with no name attached).. but all it takes is one bride/MIL/SIL/anyone who is perusing WB and recognizes you to copy and forward them, or post them elsewhere with your name.. I’m just not willing to take that chance. But again, that’s just me! ๐Ÿ™‚

 

 

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Also to add to what I posted before and to answer the bikini related question which I didn’t before. I can’t remember the last time I was at the beach wearing heels that I just so happen to use to stick under my thong and lift in a provocative manner. Makes for a GREAT sexy shot but not appropriate beach wear. AND to add, if you are not someone who cares what others think of you or are bothered by the idea of people getting their rocks off to your goodies, then why should it bother you that people say anything about you posting in the first place?

I don’t think it matters WHAT you post, nudie pics, venue pics, dress pics, ring shots, etc, its all fair game if its on the internet. If you post something you love on the internet you need to be prepared for ugly comments, including people thinking that you made a bad choice in posting sexually suggestive pics.

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

That’s fine if other’s don’t agree on whether they would post the pics but the fact of the matter is if a title says “NSW Boudoir Pics” don’t go into the freaking thread and start bashing the poster for putting her pictures up. Unless the OP asks whether you think she should post them there is absolutely no need for someone to offer their UNWANTED opinion. The title says EXACTLY what is in the thread, if you don’t want to see it or are feeling “preachy” scroll past! Seriously it’s ridiculous how self righteous people can be. 

 

 

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

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@Mrs.KMM: I think the issue is that most people post more information than they think they do. Their first name here, their fiance’s name there… a link to a wedding website or blog which reveals even more information. It doesn’t take very much for a savvy Googler to piece things together.

And like lilyfaith said, lots of people reuse screennames, so googling someone’s screenname could result in pulling up their blog, Amazon wishlist, Goodreads account, whatever… all of which might contain even more personal info.

For all those reasons I don’t think it’s a great idea to post budoir pics.

Post # 40
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Busy bee

I don’t see anything wrong with posting.  You see more at the beach!

Personally, I would never be comfortable posting my own.  But then I don’t like having my picture taken at all!

Post # 42
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388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@missfireslayer – now thats just silly. you can’t expect total strangers on the internet to play nice just because you write NSFW. If you don’t want anyone to say anything then don’t post anything to begin with. It bothers me when people can’t take negative criticism. They ask, do you like this, or what do you think. And then they FREAK out when people give honest opinions.

Post # 43
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think that you should be able to post WHATEVER you want online.  It’s your choice and people shouldn’t be bashing others because of their opinions and choices.  If they have thought it through and decided that it’s safe for them to do so, totally up to them! 

Personally I wouldn’t post any pics of myself, especially with my face in them, but I definitely don’t care if others do!!! Pro-choice!!!!! (In this situation at least ๐Ÿ™‚ )

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

there is absolutely no way i would post photos like that on the internet.

once you post those photos, you lose your anonymity, whether you want to admit it or not. if you post just a little bit more information about yourself (your location, where you went to school, where you’re getting married) it’s not that hard to find out who you are and someone you know could easily stumble across you on this site (a girl i went to college with noticed my dress post here).

plus, you don’t know who is reading this board. i’m sure brides to be, newlyweds, and waiting bees are NOT the only people on this site considering people post half-naked photos. ick.

but people can make their own choices and you think it’s okay, well, go for it.

Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@smith2be: FYI the poster I am talking about NEVER asked for an opinion on her pictures. All I am saying is if you can’t say anything nice, go away.

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