(Closed) To Post Boudior or Not To Post Boudior …..

posted 9 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 92
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Blushing bee

i would definitely post them. if someone is offended and doesn’t agree with it – then don’t look at them, no one is forcing you. also, i find it so helpful to see other pics. there aren’t many boudoir ideas/pics out there so it’s nice to see what awesome ideas other women had. 

Post # 93
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Bumble bee

@JennyW1: Frankly, I whole heartedly agree. You are being honest and I LOVE it!! I want to be able to remember what I look like now, and I think it will be fun to share with him! I assume he will get far more fun out of viewing them, but taking them and giving them to him sounds like a blast, and seeing his reaction to the pictures?! Sounds like so much fun! 

I don’t understand the negative feedback about these. They are usually saying things like “are you going to let yourself go?” or “Are you going to keep yourself from him when you are married?” and its like… of course not! We take pictures to remember moments in time all the time, and our sexuality deserves a little attention in a time when our sexuality is shifting to be shared with only one for the rest of our lives!

Post # 94
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@FutureKMM it sounds like you have no idea how easy this is.  I had someone [hi jamie if you’re reading this] whom I haven’t talked to in 20 years, see some of my posts and figure out it’s me (without a name, she didn’t even know I was engaged, and I live in a different city), but through “I once had a friend who…” stories, or “my family used to live here…” stories, she figured out it was me.  Your “KMM” could be the only clue needed for someone you know to pick up on you.

The point of privacy isn’t necessary if it’s google-searchable, it’s that it shows her FACE.  In two years, she starts a new job, and her assistant is getting married on weddingbee and finds these pics of her new boss.  Even if it’s not easily searchable, it’s very easy for someone to coincidentally stumble – upon it.  It’s a much smaller world that this anonymous blog. 

Post # 95
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

As for posting Boudoir photos (other than for privacy concerns) – I guess I misunderstood the whole point of them.

I think if you’re posting them online, some part of you took them for yourself and not fully as a gift.  If you keep them private, you took them for your one-and-only. 

Post # 96
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I wanted to post on the original thread but I see it’s closed. I would like to say that I wouldn’t post my own boudoir photos on here because I am very modest, but if I looked like that in them, then I might! lol I don’t know! I have always wanted to do that, but I have a few more pounds to get off first. I am totally inspired though. I’m thinking first anniversary instead since me and Tony Horton have a few more sessions. But I’m getting there. ha

@mishelleez You look amazing in those photos and I am glad you shared them because it makes me want to do it more than ever!

Post # 97
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354 posts
Helper bee

@FutureKMM-

If people want to post their pics and they are fine with them potentially being found by potential employers, their future inlaws, their next door neighbor, etc that’s cool.  I personally would not post them (if I do them) nor would I allow the photog to blog them for a whole host of reasons (personal, professional, family, safety, etc), but to each their own.   I think though it’s a mistake to assume that is unlikely for someone to connect an anonymous post on WB to one’s real life.  As someone pointed out in the other thread that originally prompted this one, a quick google search on the OP’s handle name brought up their Facebook page (and thus name) within the first two pages of search results.   I have had friends that have been stalked before (in real life and online) — so I try to be very careful about what personal info I post.   Also, one of my best friends is a recruiter and she tells me that they go through at least 7 – 10 pages of search results with prospective job candidates.  Even graduate school admissions officers have been known to look up applicants on google.  My point is that women that choose to post their boudoir pics should be aware of the potential consequences.  If they don’t care about the ramifications, more power to them.  I just wouldn’t want to open myself up to all of that regardless of FI’s opinion (although I assume he too would not be jazzed about sexy pics of me on the interwebs for his colleagues, friends, etc could find)! 

 

Post # 98
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Worker bee

hmmmm….. i’m not sure what to respond to on this thread……. “daydreamwanderer” pretty much took the words out of my mouth in regards to the whole “WHY do women feel so compelled to SHARE these with everyone?” slant (i agree with her reply wholeheartedly) and someone’s already pointed out the ridiculous “you’re just jealous” defense (yawn – i thought girls stopped using that when they graduated hight school). 

something i noticed in the original thread really bothered me that nobody has addressed yet though.  several women called the OP “courageous” and “brave”.  um, really?  i THINK someone even called her their “hero”?  people who go into dangerous situations when their own lives are in danger are COURAGEOUS and BRAVE.  someone who puts on a bustier and sticks her butt in the air and posts photos of it on the internet?  not even close…….  sorry.  nothing against you OP, lovely photos but……  give me a break people.  your HERO?  yikes.

Post # 99
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I wouldn’t put them online, however I have no problems with others posting them, but then again I am uber private.  But I don’t look at them either, I try not to open those posts, alittle too personal for my tastes, and my FH would have a fit if I posting something like that.  He has asked me not even to take them (not that I would), as he is uncomfortable (as am I) sharing the intimate part of our life.  I think if you want to do it, and you and your FH are comfortable with it, then do it.  I do think there should be a topic for that though, and they should be clearly marked.   There have been a few that weren’t.

Post # 100
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I did not read all the post (just too much too read), but went to mishelleez picture thread because of the first few posts.

I just want to say Thank You for posting your pictures! They are amazing, would have never thought I would like boudior pics, so hadn’t even entertained the thought of doing them for my Fiance.

Think you might have inspired me! And now I know what his wedding present will be! lol

Post # 101
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197 posts
Blushing bee

@JennyW1: they can be all about you, thats fine. Go get sexy pictures taken and do whatever you want with them, if they are for YOU. What I am saying is most women (not all) get these pictures taken as a wedding gift for their spouse. And I feel like when you get someone a gift, in my opinion, you shouldn’t make it all about you.

Post # 102
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

No way in Hell would I post them. The internet is a dangerous place, I suggest checking out websites like 4chan whenver you feel safe in internet world.

I also feel like if they are supposed to be a gift, it shouldn’t be made to be about the person giving the gift.

Post # 103
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think the thing that confuses me about boudoir pictures that are intended for the husband is that it’s a fairly expensive investment, when he would probably infinitely prefer you to be wearing your boudoir gear in front of him where he can touch you and pose you as he wants.

I don’t really know what a shoot costs, but surely most husbands would prefer you to spend $500 on a gift he can use regularly or a hobby he likes AND have you dress up and pose sexily for him later… for free. And he can get the camera out if that’s what he likes. That seems like a way more intimate, potentially fun, bonding experience and far sexier than a boudoir shoot where someone else is behind the camera…

Post # 104
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - MacLean Park

I’m totally fine with posting them (obviously! They’re on the ‘bee frontpage blog!) as is Mr. SD. He doesn’t care who sees them, in fact, he enjoys showing them off! He wants to get a few blown up to frame in our bedroom. He’s actually pretty progressive in those ways, he never showed a shred of jealously with other men admiring me. He enjoys the attention, as the man with the hot wife. And just for the record, I did these for me, not him, so the whole “for his eyes only” angle flies out the window. It was empowering for me, and I loved every minute of it. I can’t wait to see more photos from the shoot and post them to the bee! I did get a weird pingback from a german sexy-pictures site, and both Mr. SD and I thought it was funny and flattering at the same time. The post before mine talked about Kim Kardashian in a bikini, so if I’m in the same category as she is, I’m stoked! Oh, and I’m a freelance graphic designer, so I’ll never have to worry about a company discriminating against me or clients feeling odd about it. We’re all creatives, so the ones who have seen them love ’em!

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