Post # 1
My FI and I have been living together for a few years and live with my parents and will continue to for quite a while after the wedding for several reasons. I can register for some of the usual items but we just don’t have the need for all the usual items a lot of couples would put on a list. My FI are having a debate about if it’s appropriate or not to register for everyday items that we can use like dish soap, laundry soap, paper towels, etc. Almost all of the guest know about our living situation. I think it’s ok the FI says it’s tacky. What do all of you say?
Post # 3
@jeh_butterfly: I wouldn’t.Many people like their wedding give to be something lasting.
Register only for what you really need/want for your life together. Guests will likely give you cash or cheques.
Post # 4
Sorry I don’t think items like that are appropriate for a wedding registry.
Post # 5
@jeh_butterfly: I think you can use the registry as an opportunity to register for more “frivolous” things, if that makes sense. Think plush towels, new soft sheets, down pillows, nice knives, etc. My FI and I both live alone (separately), so we already have most of the stuff we need, so I feel your pain!
ETA: We also are registering mainly for the bridal showers, as we don’t really want/need a lot of things. So our registries are not very large.
Post # 6
@jeh_butterfly: I would never buy someone dish soap or paper towels as a wedding gift. If that’s what was on the registry I’d just give them cash. If you have the space, you could consider registering for traditional wedding gift stuff and storing it away for when you move out.
Post # 7
I don’t think registering for consumeables is the way to go. There’s nothing you have that needs upgrading? If you’re going to live with your parents for a few more years, you still need to think about your eventual move-out. Just store it if possible, or don’t register at all.
Example – FI and I are currently living in a 600 square foot apartment for the next year and a half. After that we will be moving to another state and buying a house. My parents are going to store any gifts we recieve that won’t fit in our current apartment.
They’re already storing one – we got a beautiful nativity set for christmas that is HUGE.
Post # 8
Just don’t register. People will take the hint and give you cash. Then later you can use it for your home.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I probably wouldn’t register for it but I will say I have been to many showers where someone gave a gift of a laundry basket full of cleaning supplies etc. So at least in my circle it’s not unheard of to get those things as a gift. But it was always just one gift. Not a whole shower of the couple opening packs of paper towells etc.
My BFF lived with her parents for awhile after their wedding but still registered for all the usual stuff so they had it when they moved out. It’s been great for them now that they have moved out.
Otherwise I agree with just not registering or register for very little.
Post # 10
@jeh_butterfly: you can have a wishing well if you want those types of gifts.
Post # 11
I would just make a small registry of the nicer things you really need. Everyone else will give you cash which you can use towards the smaller stuff.