Post # 1
My Fiance and I are having a very tradtional Chinese wedding. The customary gift at a Chinese wedding is money. 3/4 of our guests are Chinese and the other 1/4 are not.
We originally were not going to register and use the money to pay the remaining banquet balance. A friend suggested I register for the "American" guests who will probably be looking for a registry and would feel weird giving money. Besides, I don’t even know how I would relay the message- "Give us money!"
Do you think I should just register for a limited amount of things at a store ? I don’t want to bother with getting something they think we will like and we will have to spend time returning it all.
We are moving in together in a week and we will be purchasing the basics when we move in (utencils, plates, etc..)- so maybe registering isn’t a good idea?
Yikes?!!? What should I do?
Post # 3
I would register for a small number of less basic items that would be nice to have but that you won’t need immediately. Things like serving platter, a butter dish or gravy boat or whatever to match the plates you buy on your own, maybe some kitchen appliances like a stand mixer or a blender or food processor, things like that. Or if you already have any stuff that you can make do with but would like to upgrade to better quality, such as good knives or something, now is a good chance to get them. I think it would be a good idea to create at least a small registry – but only register for things you will actually use. Don’t register for things with the intention of returning them for cash – if you’re going to do that, then just don’t create a registry in the first place.
Post # 4
Thanks smartl!– I was thinking the same thing. I am not interested in rreating a registry just to take all that back. It didn’t even occur to me to do that. I am Ms. Practical, so if we register, it will be for things we need.
Post # 5
What about a honeymoon registry? I think Honeyfund does one for free. It’s just a fancy way for people to give you money. The money they give goes into your PayPal account. For some reason this is more acceptable to Americans than writing a check. *shrug*