Post # 1
My Fiance is hellbent on registering for our wedding…call me crazy–but i just dont see the need! We’ve been dating for 4 years now…the first 2 years of our relationship we each lived on our own…and now we’ve lived togther for the past 2 years…we have EVERYTHING we need for our home… So i think its pointless to register for home stuff that we already have.
I know it sounds a bit rude, but i’d like to request a monetary gift in place of a gift registry… how could i do this w/o it sounding…uh…rude?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Get a small registry to a place with a flexible return policy. Otherwise you’ll get stuff for your home anyway, it’ll just be stuff you don’t want/can’t bring back. 😉 What about a honeymoon registry as well? You don’t technically *have* to use the money for your honeymoon…
Post # 4
My Fi and I also have pretty much everything but there are some new things we would like also like new dishes and silverware would be nice. Is there anything you would want upgraded. Or maybe need more of like blankets or towels. Maybe you could let your fi register for just a few things and then that way you both win.
Post # 5
Can you register at a home improvement store for something like tools, or I have heard of honeymoon registries…maybe something to look into.
Post # 6
Set up a honeymoon registry, or a registry on a place like wishpot where you can register for games, dvds, (i.e. ot necessarily household items) or contribute towards larger puchases like furniture.
Either way you will likely receive 50-75% of your wedding gifts in cash or check…ti’s just easier that way!
Post # 7
this has definitely been brought up before on the boards and is a sticky situation. Although I am not one of those people, I know there are people who just refuse to give money as a wedding gift. I personally don’t get it but whatever.
My suggestion to you is to have a small registry for those types of people. I would look around at what you have already and see if there’s anything you want to upgrade. Nicer sheets? Newer/nicer appliances? Maybe a kayak? hahaha ok kind of joking although my FH wants to register for one. THen on your wedding website I would post a sweet short note or poem that because you’ve been living together for so long you really have everything you need for your home however if guests still wish to gift the newlyweds, that you are saving to buy a house/ go on your honeymoon/ etc and a contribution to that would greatly be appreciated. Also let your close family and friends know so they can spread the info by word of mouth. good luck!
Post # 8
We didn’t do a registry and most people just gave us checks
Post # 9
Between living together for ??? years and recently buying a house where the previous owners left us a ton of stuff, there’s not much we’re in need/want of.
We figure that when it’s time, we’ll put nicer upgrades to things we have, or things we’ve been wanting but haven’t cared to buy.
I imagine if you don’t have a registry, period, then perhaps people will say “oh I should give them money”… but there will be that person who says “every couple needs a toaster!”
OR what you could do, is register, but have the only item be a gift card. If someone asks why there’s just the gift card, you can explain why there aren’t any toasters/luggages/tasteful arts/etc.