Post # 1
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
So we live together and have for about 8 months now… so we have all the “house” things we need (i.e. plates, silverware, etc).
Should we make a registry for our wedding?
On one hand, I don’t want people to feel obligated to get us anything because we are all set! However, on the other hand I know if I was a guest to a wedding I would feel compelled to get them something regardless of whether or not they had everything they needed AND it would be much easier if they had a registry.
Post # 2
If you legitimately don’t need or want anything, then don’t register.
The fact of the matter is, there will always be people who want to give you a physical object as a gift and they are going to do that no matter whether you register or not – whether it’s an item you might find on a registry or something more personalized. And those are the type of people who likely are going to go off-registry anyway. But registering gives the impression you actually are in need of items for you home and there are some who if they see you actually want something will buy off registry instead of giving cash. If you don’t register, then most people are likely to give cash.
Post # 3
It depends. Even if you have all the essentials is there something you’d like? New towels? Upgraded linens? Nicer knives?
If you truly can’t think of anything then don’t register. But if there are things you’d like that if you got cash you might eventually buy anyway, then have a registry.
Post # 4
Even if you were not “all set”, no host should ever make guests feel as if a gift was expected – not for weddings, showers, or any party.
I get that etiquette varies by upbringing and region, but to me, a registry screams “it’s not the thought that counts”. If you want to make one for inquiring guests who insist on a “clue” or some “tips” on what to get you, then make a registry, but don’t share it with anyone who doenst ask for it.