Post # 1
This is the second wedding for both my Fiance and me. Our guest list pretty much consists of the same family and friends that were invited to our first weddings. We’re unsure as to whether or not it’s appropriate to rester for gifts. While there are a several random household items we could use, we certainly don’t need the full gamut of traditional registry items. I also read that many couples who have already been married don’t even have a registry. I guess because it seems gift grabby to expect your family members to give you another gift just because your first marriage failed. Then again, I can’t imagine showing up to a wedding (even if it’s the person’s 5th!) without a gift. So while we don’t expect our guests to give us gifts, it would be a little strange given the mores of U.S. culture for someone not to give one.
As a guest I often appreciate having the option of giving a gift instead of cash, and the guidance of a registry means I don’t have to worry about buying something they don’t want or already have. So what’s more helpful and polite to our guests? Not to register since we don’t need a ton of stuff, even though that basically forces our guests to give us cash? Or register even though that’s apparently frowned upon for second marriages?
Post # 2
I think you should do a small registery. People will want to bring gifts and it’s better to give them some direction otherwise you may end up with a bunch of stuff you don’t want.
Post # 3
This is a second wedding for Fiance and I, we did a small registry. I felt weird about doing one simply because it was a second wedding I didn’t want anyone to think we expected anything. When family or friends asked about it I would say I did a small one but please do not feel like you have to get us anything.
Post # 4
Do exactly what you do for a first wedding: create a registry, don’t mention it on the invitation, give people the info if they ask.
Post # 5
This will be my second marriage, and I do not plan on registering. I assume if people really want to give something they will just give some monetary amount. I also am having a tropical small and intimate destination wedding so I just assume most people’s travel is their gift to us.
I don’t know I personally feel that people met ther wedding gift quota on the first go.
Post # 6
CakeSniffer: I think a small registry is fine. I wouldn’t put it on your inviation … thats just a personal preference for me though. I would create it, and if someone asks, you can let them know. Otherwise, people will likely give you money and then you can buy what you like with that.
Post # 7
Thanks for the advice, everyone! I’m thinking we’ll do a small registry with the odds and ends we want/need. I’ll link to it on our wedding website, which people will find out about from our save the dates.