(Closed) To register or not to register for gifts? Help please. Need advice.

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@echolove:  I’m sorry I will be absolutely no help because I am also on the registering fence. I just had to comment because i LOVE Irish Wolfhounds (I’ve had 3 growing up) but with a chihuahua?!?!?! talk about extremes! Please tell me that you have walked them together!

Post # 4
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526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

You can say “no boxed gifts please” on your invitation…?

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Ladies I think you should both register! Just have them be sent to your home. The registry will do this automatically unless the guests asks otherwise. You can write in a comment on your registry to please ship your gifts. I am having a small wedding and while at first I was on the fence about it now I am loving it! You don’t need to have a large registry but have something on one. If you don’t you will end up with 4 toasters that you can’t return. That is useless. Besides, of all the weddings I have been to asking for money always backfires. You never get as much if you ask for only cash then when you ask for gifts. This is because many people feel they can get away without giving a check or card since it isn’t as visible as bringing a gift and they won’t be embarrassed to “forget”. This happens even with very close family, I have seen it too many times!

People chose to give cash or gifts as wedding presents and they do the same thing for all weddings. If they want to give you a gift at least let it be something you like or can return! If you have a smaller registry it might encourage them to give money.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

We did the same thing. Combing two houses we didn’t need anything, we needed paint for the house and things like that.   We had 90 people, and didn’t register, when people asked we told them ….. we need GC’s.  We also had both Mother-In-Law and my Dad telling people.  We got one box of shot glasses that roll around, and we returned them. 

Try word of mouth! People don’t want to lug crap to your wedding either.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We have been crystal clear to family and friends that we  don’t want gifts. We getting married in my city, then moving a six hour plane ride. Our plan if people buy us gifts is to donate to charity, or sell it then give them the money.

I’m sure a few people will get us gifts and that the best plan we can come up. As we both own homes and have to majorly downsize.

Post # 10
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4272 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Don’t register for anything. Keep the wish for cash by word of mouth only.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@echolove:  Yay! You’ll have so much fun with him! I loved watching our Archie grow up because you could literally go to work and he’d be bigger by the time you got home!!

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Make a small registry of easily portable things and spread by word of mouth that you would prefer no physical gifts due to the travel. Or ask that when people buy gifts from your registry, that they have the item shipped to your home.

Putting anything on the invites about gifts is generally frowned upon.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you register at http://www.macys.com you can bring them back return them and rebuy the exact item and they will ship it for free to your house. We did this with our shower gifts. They are very good about that. 

Also, are you sure people will give gifts and not cash at the wedding? Is that standard for your area?

Post # 15
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110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@ThreeMeers:  What a great idea about the macys returns! I would have never thought of that.

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