Post # 1
Before I go any further, let me just explain, in short, the situation…
We are coming up on our 20th Wedding Anniversary. We are having a HUGE party, cruise, vow renewal, etc…
Now, here comes the challenge. We could really use a few things. 2 of our kids have grown and moved out and along with them went dishes, pots, pans, silverware, furniture, towels, etc… you get what I am saying? do you?… Does this make sense?
I would love some simple things again, like matching towels and silverware. Perhaps, if I am lucky, an electric fondue pot. (i have tried freecycle, craigslist, etc… never seems to work out).
So I am wondering if its okay to register somewhere? I am NOT expecting to receive gifts, but there are things, that if people choose to give gifts, I wouldn’t mind having (electric can opener anyone?)
is it okay for us to register? Then if we do, how do we go about it? I am thinking just an informal announcement on Facebook on our group page? believe me, we do NOT expect anything, but I was reading through some threads and i was like “hey, hrmmm should i?” I am totally on fence.
Post # 3
We are an encore couple and the kids have moved out. We have also been together for just over 10 years. We have decided not to register. If our guests choose to get us something that will be great; however, we are not expecting gifts. We feel that if we registered that guests would think we are expecting gifts, and we aren’t. We just don’t feel it would be appropriate for us to register, even though there are things that we would like too.
That being said, if you feel comfortable registering, then go ahead and do it. Registry information is usually given via word of mouth. If it were me, I would not post it on Facebook. If you have a website, you could put the information there.
Post # 4
20 years of marriage, registering is not something I would do. I don’t register for my birthday. IMO – I really don’t think it is appropriate, especially for a destination affair.
And, spreading it on FB, screams “buy us something”
Sorry – like I said – IMO
Post # 5
I wouldn’t register either. If people want to give you something as a gift, they will.
Post # 6
that was my initial thought:) guess we should always go with our initial/gut reaction!
oh and i didn’t post it on FB or anything, the only thing i did on FB is Save the Date! the most important thing to me is people who we have met through the years, as a couple, who have seen us in good times and bad, for richer and poorer, sickness and health, etc… be there! THAT is what is important to me…
dang I knew i shouldn’t have asked that LOL I knew I should have gone with my gut, its always right!
Post # 7
Well, you seem to have your mind made up, BUT with it being a vow renewal, I don’t think you’re out of line registering. I know if I were your guest, even if you told me not to, I’d be bringing you a gift, wouldn’t you do the same? As for getting the word out: one NEVER announces one’s own registry. Tell your children. Chances are, people would ask them for ideas anyway.
Post # 8
Well, we have changed our minds, it is NOT a destination party after all:) we decided it is more important for us to have family and friends there than it is for us to take a cruise (although on my wedding website I posted that it would be fun to keep the party going for those who wanted to join us, it would certainly be fun)
I am not registering, everyone that we are inviting has known us for so many years htey know what we need/want so if they want to bring something they can, but their presence is enough:)
I am happy to have made this decision.
The reason I am starting to plan so early is that I just had major surgery. and when I heal I will be going to school and working. so I do not want to be totally stressed out at the last minute trying to put everyting together.
One thing is for sure, I will NOT setle on anything for this. It is a HUGE milestone, I set our budget, and hopefully I can stay within it. hehe…
I am just happy!
Post # 9
Fwiw, if it were a new marriage, I could see a registry, but for an established married couple, I don’t see that.
However, there will probably be guests bringing gifts anyway. If it were me, I would (if I were asked) say we’d like gift cards to blah blah blah store or something like that. And then the word would get out.