Post # 1
My husband and I are going to be married 3 years this Friday. We have been through SO much in our relationship it is unbelievable! Just a few months after we began dating he lost his 22 month old daughter in a horrible drowning incident. We got married about a year after that and just before our first anniversary we lost my 13 year old son in a tragic accident as well. I was NOT able to deal well with my sons death and my husband and I ended up living apart for the better part of 15 months. (Never actually “separated” as in seeing other people – we just didn’t live together.) We began the journey of repairing our marriage and moved back in together shortly after our anniversary last year.
Now – we got married alone in St. Thomas on the beach, kind of a destination elopement. Nobody else from our families was there – it was just us.
I’m considering planning a small “Vow Renewal” ceremony for our close family and friends to attend to commemorate the reunification of our family and rededication to our marriage. Sort of just a way for us to recommit to each other and this marriage as well as a way to have our loved ones surround and support us after everything we have overcome.
I have a close family friend who is a Judge and would be willing to do the ceremony at no charge, and a beautiful park we can do it in for free… then maybe a BBQ at my house afterward just for fellowship.
Is this incredibly cheesy?
Post # 3
I think that sounds beautiful! It’s a great idea.
I’m sorry to hear about your son (and his daughter), I can’t even imagine the heartbreak you must have felt.
Post # 4
@MrsMc77: No. I think that when our marriages make it through horrible experiences, it changes who we are and it makes sense to recommit ourselves.
I think that your idea is lovely, simple, and perfectly appropriate.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Not cheesy at all. You’ve been through hell, and a vow renewal would be a lovely way to mark the past and celebrate the future.
Post # 6
First of all, I’m so sorry for your loss.
In regards to your vow renewal, I generally consider that to be something that should be shared by the couple. In this case inviting family and friends seems to be appropriate though. Congrats on how far you’ve come.
Post # 7
@MrsMc77: I think it would be lovely. 🙂 FYI, for vow renewals, you don’t need a licensed officiant, since it is not a legal ceremony.
Post # 8
@mrshunnybunches: Oh I know we don’t need one – but my stepmother is actually the court reporter for this Judge and he’s been like part of the family. Even down to coming to the hospital to pray with us while my son was there. I would choose him for that reason 🙂
Thanks everyone. I have to say we have come a LONG way in 4 years… and since our families were not able to be present at the first wedding I’d really like to feel their love and support surrounding us at a vow renewal.
I am very happy to say that we found our way back to each other and this marriage and are truly even happier than we were to begin with! I believe we can overcome anything together!
Post # 9
I think that sounds like an awesome idea. I’m happy to hear that your marriage is moving forward. I’m so sorry for all of the hardship you have had to go through. Good luck with everything, I’m sure it will be a beautiful day. 🙂
Post # 10
No, not cheesy at all my friend.
You are celebrating the fact that your marriage has weathered so many storms. That is a beautiful reason for a vow renewal.
Post # 11
Oh my goodness, cheesy no. The fact that you guys pushed on should be celebrated.