Post # 1
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168 posts
Blushing bee
So my wedding happened on June 2, 2012. While my pics came out great our ceremony was a DISASTER! THe preacher butchered our names and TOTALLY BUTCHERED our vows to the point people are still laughing and joking about how awful the preacher was to this day! Mortifying, yes VERY. He did not once look down at his script book OR the program The preacher was using a lapel mic which was causing SCREACHING feedback in the speakers while the singers where trying to get through their song. He was looking around as if he didn’t know where it was coming from. A cousin of mine had to come out of the audience and into the pulpit to tell him it was his mic and he needed to use a handheld.
He totally did not follow the program which he had a copy of. I don’t even believe my father got a chance to give me away. We said the most jacked up vows I have ever heard. I got married at an old country church that lots of the older members of my family went to and some still go there. My grandparents are buried in the churchs cemetary so it meant alot to get married there. But the horrible ceremony in my mind, overshadows all the sentimental value. Lastly I find out from and older family member a day after the wedding that the preacher is illiterate! So I am considering a vow renewal on our 1st anniversary. Something really small like maybe 20-30 people tops OR maybe just us. What do you think?
Post # 3
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246 posts
Helper bee
Renew. You’re clearly not happy with that happened and there’s no sense carrying that bitterness with you!
And my father wonders why I dont’ want his pastor who barely speaks english to perform my ceremony and instead have chosen my friend…. *sigh*.
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
@ericasdreamwedding: Why not have a renewal just for the two of you? Don’t worry about other people; don’t make a big deal; just have a renewal entirely devoted to the two of you.
Post # 5
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1511 posts
Bumble bee
@ericasdreamwedding: Yikes! I’m sorry you had such a terrible experience!
I think you should renew your vows. It sounds as though this really dampened your overall wedding experience, and it seems like you’d both feel a little better if you said your vows in front of those closest to you without any of the awful distractions, failure to follow the program, etc.
Post # 6
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168 posts
Blushing bee
@SpecialSundae: Yes! You are so right just for the two of us would be perfect!
Post # 7
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1471 posts
Bumble bee
Renew. And enjoy it. If you go with just the two of you, or a very small group, it will be very affordable, and you cna enjoy elements that a larger wedding may not have, making it even more special (for example a very, very fancy meal afterward, or a tiny, stunning, intimate location)
Find someone special to you to officiate.
Post # 8
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4282 posts
Honey bee
You should take a tropical vacation, just the two of you, and renew on the beach 🙂
Post # 9
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Helper bee
Awww, I’m sorry about the name thing. I have an extra difficult first and last name so I totally get this. RENEW!